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    My SO and I have not been through a deployment or any DETS. Contrary to popular belief (including my own) just because he isn't deployed doesn't mean he can do as he pleases. My boyfriend is in the Navy and although we get to talk daily (normally) I find the Navy is my biggest enemy most of the time. Let me explain...

    Kevin and I met while he was on leave. I knew right off the bat that he was in the Navy as it was one of the first things we talked about. What I didn't know at the time was that shore duty is not the same thing as leave. In the Navy you get three years of sea duty and three years of shore duty and it keeps rotating. I assumed that on the three years of shore duty you were basically on vacation. Oh how naive I was...

    An average day for us is as follows...
    9:00 AM I get a 10 minute wake-up call from Kevin (which makes my day much easier) to both say good morning to me, and goodnight to him
    9:15 AM I get up out of bed, shower and get ready for work.
    10:00 AM I go into work, where I can't noticeably check my phone, just incase he texts or calls because he can't get to sleep.
    4:00 PM I am normally on my way home, either sad because I miss him, or really mad that I missed a text or a phone call, because they are all I have.
    10:00 PM I normally start calling him, it's his turn for a wake-up call. Unlike me, he is a heavy sleeper, and this can sometimes take up to 2 hours..
    [When he wakes up] Now it's time for him to shower, dress, eat, and get ready for work.
    1:30 AM I get a phone call on his way to the base to say goodnight and that we'll talk in the morning.

    Now this is on a good day, on a great day we'll have more time to talk, rather than the half hour (at most) that we normally talk, and we'll have several texts before I fall asleep. BUT we have bad times too. On a bad day the missed phone calls and texts are my enemy. His schedule changes all the time, and we have times where we're unable to speak for days at a time, because he has to catch up on sleep after his schedule goes from mornings to midnights to afternoons and then back to midnights in a week. There are times that I've missed a call that I know would be the last call for a week, and it breaks my heart. I think that anyone in a LDR can understand how the missed calls hurt, but I think more so, anyone in an LDR with someone in the military can understand that THAT missed call was supposed to be the one to get you through the week, month, or year...



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