I don't think I have ever been tested so bad in my life regarding terms of trust.
Last night my SO and his really close friend who is a girl watched the avengers together. I originally thought he was going to watch the movie with her and another friend who is a guy. I don't know why my SO never told me that the other friend decided not to go... So he went in his own vehicle and she took her own vehicle to the movies to meet up and they both paid their own ways. Honestly I wouldn't really consider this a date. But isn't it weird how I had a gut feeling he was lieing about something and left out the detail that he was only going with her?... :/
The only reason I found out so much detail was because I simply asked him questions. He started to get angry with me and very defensive about me even asking him questions to begin with.... and maybe I shouldn't have. He is right in the sense that I should know his intentions weren't bad. But I wish he could atleast understand sometimes where I am coming from.
The only reason I felt hurt was not because they went out on a date but rather the avengers was supposed to be "our" movie.... When we saw captain america last year he told me we were gonna watch the avengers together. Well obviously that can't happen cuz we're an LDR couple now... Honestly, i just felt replaced... that she is his new best friend... and more than anything I wish that could've been me sitting next to him... As I was telling him these things...he called me insecure and jealous.
I felt horrible and honestly I feel like I am going to lose him because of how insecure I am. I don't know what to think or what to do anymore... I just want my best friend back...the one who can listen and understand. Not the friend who judges me constantly...
Guys.....was I being jealous? I totally understand if I was. It's hard when I have that gut feeling because he didn't tell me something... And was that considered a date? Please feel free to reply. I really need some outsider opinions right about now...
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i never take into account that he wanted to see the movie with me but i will never know if he was thinking that... we've been in a LDR for almost 8 months now. and i know for a fact that i wouldnt have gotten jealous at all about who he went to see the movie with if i was still able to see him during the week and me and him for some reason couldnt see it together.
the last part u wrote is pretty dang close to what i've been doing... i just expect the worst now cuz its better to not be disappointed... i know i shouldn't assume the worst but he's really let me down a lot throughout the entire relationship.. and i feel like a broken record asking for the same things over and over again. when i have no expectations, our relationship is at its best. its when i get sad and second guess his feelings for me that everything tumbles down..
man, this is harder than so many ppl will ever understand....