Days in a LDR: 2 Months, 14 days
Well, this weekend was absolutely amazing. I write to you safely from my dorm room looking back at this whirlwind of a vacation. I left Friday afternoon, and was picked up by Brennen in San Francisco. Now, I had been planning on a more *ahem* "romantic" first night together, but I was so wiped out, we just played catch up on our bed most of the night.
The next morning was a bit more... eventful, to say the least. I have to say taking a shower together was a fun experience, even if we were just showering (get your minds out of the gutter!). It was like we started right where we left off, just as intimate, maybe even more intimate than during our summer. After that, I dragged him to see his old school and my old theatre to say hi, then to my brother's house, then to my school then to my good friend's house for some intense hanging out. He was a doll the entire time, it made me super proud to tot him around.
Then the next day, he got up with me and went to my church. I was hoping I would see my Minister Penny, whom Brennen would LOVE, but she was on a vacation as well and had another minister come in. EVERYONE in my church loved him. I had several women tell me he's "super cute" and a couple of men say he was a "gentleman". Now, if only if I could make Brennen love my church as much as they love him... He'll have to deal with the fact that when we get married, I plan on having my Minister do the honors, because I couldn't imagine a single other soul doing it. And many of member would be attending! (But... more on that to come...)
After that, we hung out with my Best Friend and cooked, had dinner with my other Brother, his girlfriend and my parents, then had (FINALLY) sometime to ourselves.
We decided to recreate one of my more favorite dates and take the beach path along our town beach and site down in the exact bench where he told me, someday, he plans on marrying me.
We talked about everything under the moon. From his encounter with that girl **coughcoughslutwhorecoughcough** he calls his friend. (I told him that if I ever saw her, I might punch her in the face), to our views on how we fell for each other. (FUN FACT!: The entire time I thought it was sheer luck that I ran into him at the fashion show dinner, when in fact, he had sought me out! That adds a whole new spin) and how he plans on writing them down in the same book I gave him for his birthday. And finally, of course, the topic of marriage came up again, and again, he was the one to bring it up! I'm still amazed by this...
Anyways, he told me how he had talked to his father (the same conversation I reference in a few blogs, I learn a new piece of it every time I talk to him about it.) and his dad asked him if was ready to get EVERYTHING ready for our marriage if we were to take that step. And by everything I mean life insurance, a job, a place to live, a ring, health insurance...anything you can possibly think of. And, seeing how this conversation was a month and a half after we started dating, of course he said no! But he added to our conversation that he still didn't have that stuff ready, and probably wouldn't for a while. "Anyways" he added "I would like for us to live together for a few years before we get married".
Good idea in a CDR... but a LDR? Mind you, living together won't even be a possibility for about 7 more years... that's a terribly long wait... I'll be 25!!! That seems like so far into the future...
But, at the same time, it makes sense. 25 is a good age to be married, and he'll be out of the Navy, and I the Peace Corps.
I guess what throws me off is that I've already gone through doing basic wedding plans with Corey (my Ex Boyfriend/Fiancee/whatever the hell he was). And I was thinking I'd be married by now. (We were planning on being 18)
Being in that mindset, then having a totally different dynamic months later... well, I wouldn't say that was hidden baggage, but more along the lines of change in pace.
And it's one for the good, I think! If I can wait 3 months to kiss him, why can't I wait 7 years to marry him? I'll be a regular waity-katie!
...but that doesn't stop me from having my dress, color scheme, bridesmaids, and minister picked out, right? A girl's gotta dream!
