I'm trying to work on my relationship with my SO but I find the constant invasion of rom coms and posts here to be disheartening. Let me explain, I don't want to leave here this isn't one of those posts. The thing that gets me is reading posts along the lines of 'just hearing your voice brightens my day" "I am the happiest person in the world" etc makes me think my relationship has nothing left of it.

I watched Friends With Benefits today, bad idea. I want to have a sexual relationship that is fun and frequent like all those goopy people in the movies.

I feel like this is hard to explain. Because of all these outside influences I don't know what a real relationship is supposed to feel like. I only know what I feel like I am missing out on.

We are way past getting excited to receive a call from the other, he comes home and its like 'oh hey, just I'll put my computer down and talk to you" our sex life is never going to be like it was and I don't know if that is normal.

My friend is getting married, I have married friends on facebook who seem so over the moon and happy posting endearing status' about how the love of their live something something. How much of this is just show, or how much of this is it supposed to be like?

I feel like we have overcome/ are still overcoming a lot. There is not much fairy tale about our relationship anymore. Does that mean we are doomed or does that mean that maybe we've just got to the down and dirty a lot faster then most couples would?

I feel like I've been married for 10 years somedays based on how comfortable we've gotten and the amount we have sex. I don't take care of myself like I used to. If I have the day off, I'm lucky to shower, I found the longest hair on my foot today! I would never let that happen if I was in a new relationship. I don't like that at 25 I've already let myself go.

I miss those butterflies and being excited to see my SO, I miss hot sexy passionate sex, but is lusting after those things only going to lead me in the same position just with someone else down the road? Do I only want those things because media tells you thats what you want?

I am just confused.