Hi! This is my first LDR. And his for that matter, and we've dealt with it really well. My concern is, after 5 months apart is it normal to feel anxious about meeting again? I’m so terrified that we've both changed so much we won't get along; or that I've piled on the pounds and not noticed. He assures me he loves me no matter what but is this a normal feeling to have? Xx
Vix
Yes this is completely normal; don’t let it worry you. It’s also common for some couples to feel a little awkward around each other for a day or so when being reunited. I’m sure that once you are together again these concerns will melt away.
Dear Miss U,
I'm totally stumped on what to get my boyfriend for Christmas! I know he likes gaming and skate clothes but I want to get him something meaningful too! I'm not sure what would make a good Christmas present when we're so far away. We've never met in person but we both love each other very much. He's a very picky person when it comes to presents and he HATES surprises. I don't want to get him something that he won't enjoy!
Thank you,
xoxo Sarah
It’s hard to suggest things for people you don’t know, and I don’t know what your budget is…There is a page of gift suggestions on this website, make sure to take a look. If he doesn’t already have Skyrim, it’s a good game; all the geeks in my life are loving it. The new Assassin’s creed game came out not too long back as well and might be an option. Meaningful is harder, do you have any in-jokes that you can turn into a gift idea? Can you do a “12 days of Christmas” style thing via the mail or email?
I’ve noticed a lot of skate guys have those long chains connected to their pants, perhaps you could get him something simple to hang on that? Like a tag engraved with a sweet message – bonus points can be scored if you do it in a different language, if he’s interested in or descended from another culture.
Dear Miss U,
I have never met him, but yet he makes me feel as if I can't live without him. We met online and have both had relationships with different people at our locations. They all fell through the cracks, and we somehow always ended up with one another. Even though I have never met him, am I really in love?
Nikki
No one can know if you’re in love except you Nikki, but I do believe things happen for a reason. Perhaps it is time to make meeting in person a priority, because then you will know for sure.
Dear Miss U,
we have a great relationship even though we're far away from each other =[ We see each other every six months , and after been again separated for 6 months he is coming back again to visit =] he is going to be here for almost a month and I want some ideas to make him little surprises that will make him realize that even though we are apart most of the time we are still a great couple and that I love him with all my heart. (And I also miss our physical relationship )
ANY IDEAS?
Cocoandy
Take time to pamper him. Get him a snack and then rub his feet while he relaxes. Write on the bathroom mirror in lipstick (you can even make it naughty). Surprise him with some lingerie you’ve gotten for yourself. Maybe let him take pictures of you (they can be deleted immediately if keeping the evidence is uncomfortable for you). Dance for him, even if you don’t know how – just put on some music, move your hips, touch yourself and take your clothes off very slowly. If you have work or school while he’s there, leave him a note telling him the things you’re going to do to him when you get home. Go out and do fun things together. Having fun as a couple is the quickest way to remind your partner that you’re who they want to be with. Try something you've both never done before, even if you're not sure you'll like it.
Sincerely,
Miss U
