So my boyfriend came up with a plan that I could go live with him over in England for a year then we'd move back to my hometown on the NW side of the usa together. I told him I would think about it and come visit him first before making up my mind, he just visited me a couple days ago and I want to visit him asap. Butt. I don't know if I can move because. Its funny with my mom because first she tells me to stay in college and if you take a year off (like I wanted to do before I met my bf) then its harder to come back. She encouraged me to stay in school and now that I am on a track that I want to finish at my community college and transfer to a 4 yr. Im going into my second yr it seems odd that now that my bf wants me to move over my mom is like its ok it will be good for you. you might grow, and before she was telling me not to drop out of college and now she's encouraging a year off. It confuses me thats all and now she's all like you're young and if your motivated you can come back to school after a year. --side note--I honestly think she's going with the whole year off thing because secretly she doesn't want me to be a teacher. (thats my career track). And I mean I should make the commitment and go to England but he already said he'd move here so I mean I don't know. I want to stay in school and my mom was like don't go to school over there because the credits won't transfer and *URGH* I don't know what to do. I will think more but I mean I'm on a roll and I can't just drop my life and move to england for year. I mean I can work yes but I am in school I want to get my teaching certificate and I will see how I feel when I visit-I am just confused.
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Im afraid of change and I tend to worry myself sick. So thinking about what I want to do is scaring the hell out of me and I keep hearing my moms voice in my head saying "stay in school if you stay out for a yr its harder to get back into the swing of things" :/
Please I need some advice leave me a comment!!
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Yes your advice helps and my thoughts are to stay in college but my heart tells me to go and get a job instead of trying to transfer and not being able to get them transfered-as you said. I know that I would sign a lease for a month to month(if I do end up going) so just in case I don't like it over there I can always come home. Thats the part that makes me calm down. That I have a place to come back to. Instead of coming back to nothing. I might finish up this second year at my community college then go but I don't know. Still need more time to think.
Thank you for your time reading my blog. I appreciate it sincerely.
Love,
N
The more you better yourself, the better your relationship will be. And you're right to do it on your terms (your own apartment, so on), because well, we like to think the best will happen, but sometimes... we all know those sometimes. You have to be willing to accept a big move like that for yourself as much as for your relationship. Staying in college, no matter how you do it, will help you get to a better, more secure place faster than skipping a year.
And it's true, it's VERY hard to get back in if you take a year off. Unless you're taking the year to really go abroad, work hard, get money and have a a real adventure that you can come back from ready to graduate.
I hope this helps. Your heart and your head both need an agreement in something of this magnitude.
Thank you for you kind words and advice I am glad you "chimed in" because I needed all the advice I could get right now. And you're right I do need to step away and think about all this before I make my decision, I should focus my attention on the new quarter starting and distract myself with school and homework for now. Until I make a good decision that equals my head and heart together-I am a libra after all I like to make things balanced in my life.Thanks again for reading!!'
-Love
N