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blissfulgirl2 started a blog post Silence :/ --on my end anywaySilence :/ --on my end anyway
I've decided to not skype with my SO for a couple days because I feel bad about the conversation we had and it made me realize how stupid I was for pushing this whole moving/engaged crap in his face but its important. I want him to be here more than anything-yes I know it's a huge step but he made it seem he was ready. Maybe he is scared and he didn't tell me or I don't know he said he didn't have anything to say. So I am still confused but I mean after this summer we will be going into our 3 yr stretch and it's important to start to get things changing. I don't want to be waiting during our 4th year. I told him and he knows, so call me crazy but I can wait for 3 years but 4 is too much. Is that reasonable? I would go over there but I really have my college plan here and a plan. For him he has no plans and has been working at KFC for a yr or so now. It's much easier for him to come here than it is for me to go there. Plus he's the one that wanted to move here. I am so lost I feel so bad about what went down but we hadn't talked about it in a long time so I wanted to ask him a few things. I've been holding back tears during school and saving them for later, I am so down in the dumps. I just hope I didn't push him away and I hope he didn't push away from me. I could use some advice or something because I don't know where to go from here. I hope some miracle happens and he takes the lead and starts wrking on moving over here and getting more serious in a sense. Because lately it's felt Im the more serious one and the leader. As you could probably tell from my last two blogs.You must be logged in to post a comment.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together now for over 4 and a half years, and we are not engaged to be married. I guess we have taken things to the next level because we live together in my parents house, Thats kinda why its so hard to say goodbye to him when he leaves to visit his family for a few months.
Anyway the reasons we arent engaged is down to a number of reasons:
1. We got together when we were young, I was 16 he was 18, now I am 21 and he is 23. I think people forget that we are still young and finding our way in life.
2. I am in university and have no job at present, therefore we cant afford to buy oour own home or get married.
3. He is aprofessional motorbike racer, therefore the money that comes in is good, but if he gets injured we have to struggle on the insurance.
4. He has the belief that marriage and engagement is not a status. It is a symbol of the next stage in progression. By which he doesnt want to do whilst we are living in my parents house.
Therefore we set ourselves targets. I finish university next may and after my surgery will go into full time work. Therefore with my wage and his wage we will move into our own place. Then comes the stage of engagement.
I understand your frustration, I really do. But try take things a step at a time. Instead of bombarding him with all these committments (which may scare him), focus on one at a time. So firstly make arrangements to close the distance and then take things from there.
Hugs coming your way girl =)
I really do think it's just his family, and money situation. Don't get insecure or distant.
Here if you need anything, anytime <3