Okay first off I want to say thank you for the new fonts on the blogs! I love them...Anyway, if you have kept up with my other blogs you know my current love B comes from living with his dad *whom is amazing* but they are lower class. *which I dont mind my parents do though* since I have always come from a middle class live on the beach home. I dont know what its like to have money one minute and be struggling to find money for rent the next. I worry constantly about him and my mom keeps saying "you really have to compare your life to his, do you really want to struggle for the rest of your life? I know its love but you need to be with someone who can take care of you." Yes its a valid suggestion but its a true love with B and I want to be with him and yes, I worry about struggling for money. I dont want to be like them. I know that sounds horrible but it worries me. What should I do? Any tips? Anyone else in this situation??--I have never known what its like to struggle, I want to relate and tell him it will be ok when really I dont sometimes. It scares me B and his dad and his family *that I have met* are some of those most nicest/caring people I have ever met. Why does this happen to them?? I wish I could help them.
Please help me.
My SO Obi has faced the same fears as you. He's middle class, I'm the broke one The idea of struggling fills some people with fear. I don't understand that. There have been times where I've had to choose to either pay my bills or eat, and that's not easy I'll grant you. There have been months where the only thing I've eaten was one sandwich a day and I didn't know when I'd actually have a meal in front of me. I've been so poor that my cat had to live off weetbix or frozen veggies because I couldn't feed him either. I've been homeless for short stints. I've taken charity from people I hate or from strangers. And you know what? It isn't the end of the world.
Nowadays, the only real way you can tell that I'm from poor stock and he isn't is that he has post-secondary education and a lovely white collar job, and I don't. But, we both work hard, and there have been several times where I've looked after us both, times where his middle class background didn't help him at all.
The fact that B comes from nothing wont stop him being there for you and holding his own financially. Not in today's world. Your parents are seriously living in the past. Anyone can rise through the class systems now if they have the determination. Most youths start out their lives together either poor, or in debt or both. That doesn't mean you have to stay that way. If he's a hard worker that's all that matters.
Bad things do happen to good people. That's just how it is. And sometimes either through bad choices or accidents, people do get trapped in the cycle of poverty. Some people aren't educated enough to get themselves out. Some people are "working poor" barely making ends meet, and to better their situation they need outside help, often that they are too proud to accept.
Don't worry too much, work hard, pray a little. It all works out in the end, I assure you!