There was this even stranger follow-up (he said I felt too much for him, we should be friends instead, no: be together - very vague) that got me thinking (apart from negative feelings) that there really is something that should be done in this relationship. It was like a revelation! All of a sudden I felt that I saw it all so clearly;
- how we need to prioritize other things as well as us (work, study, sleep etc.)
- how 2 months has been to long already; I have got to go and see him
- that we need rules for communication to that we don't step on each other's toes (never only texting, I shall not take things personal, he will try to be less vague)

And he spilled the beans that he has real concerns for our future, because of the polyamory thing . I KNEW there was something on his mind. I felt guilty for not having seen what was coming, and helping him more! Anyway, it got really constructive (because I was not upset from the night before) and I got to tell him lots of how I feel about loving two men and how it works for me. Like, it is not about giving half my love to my husband and the other half to him. Even if time is devided, love is not... it just flows, and grows, and even my husband feel that I love him more since I met my boyfriend. My boyfriend said he understands more. I felt we were looking towards a future for real. And I was afraid he was breaking up with me, but he was really happy that I am coming to see him soon!