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    Defying Age and Distance

    I am missing my SO terriblely so I figured telling our story would help, so here it goes.

    This all started when I joined a text based RPG, a friend from another site had convinced me to join his, even though I was getting tired of all the drama that was circulating these fourms, I reluctantly signed up. A week or two after I joined I noticed that this particular fourm didn't have a "share you pictures" topic, and me being the ever curious, I made one starting off with pics of myself of course. During posting this I also happening to be talking to a few people in the chatroom, and after I had posted the pictures I had recieved a bunch of compliments from all the guys I had been talking to, now for me this was really rare because I had never really been complimented by guys before, in fact, I rarely talked to guys outside the safety of the internet.

    Now I don't quite remember how it happened but I suddenly ended flirting with one of the guys after we had exchanged IM screen names, this was even more rare, I've never been much of a flirt. After awhile we settled down and I decided to ask how old he was, usually all the members of the RPG tend to be around 14-18 so I really wasn't that worried myself at the time being 15. The answer I got totally shocked me and returned me to reality, he was 20. After we both exchanged ages it seemed as though all conversation died, we both knew it was illegal to be together. Suddenly an IM appeared, he said he didn't care about how old I was and that it shouldn't matter as long as we remain LD, I quickly agreed, I already had such strong feelings for him, I don't know what it was, there was just something about him that made me feel safe.

    Suddenly I realized that I had to leave my computer, my best friend was having her birthday party/ sleepover that weekend, afraid I would lose him over the weekend I asked if he wanted to exchange cell numbers so that we could text, I had explained how nervous I was over it because my parents had taught me to be wary of strangers over the internet, so he sent me his number and told me to text it if, or whenever, I felt comfortable. Honestly I couldn't even wait as soon as I left the house headed towards my friends house I texted, I had recognized the area code and my heart almost shattered right then and there. He lived in New York, and I lived in Arizona, that's across the entire country almost, its a grand total of over 2,000 miles apart.

    The hardest part about the whole relationship isn't the distance it's the age gap, because of this we have to keep everything a secret, and because of that it also means we can't see eachother as oten as we'd like to, although we did get a chance to meet up in October and honestly it was well worth the wait, that was the best weekend of my life and I know that no matter what barriers stand in our way we will overcome them because love doesn't discriminate.

    Notes:
    Met: 8.17.09
    Started Dating: 8.20.09
    First Met: 10.2.10
    Closed the Distance: 8.9.14

    #2
    You know I always found the age argument to be kinda weird. After all if an 80 year old dates a 60 year old, no one thinks anything of it. If a 50 year old dates a 30 year old, no one thinks much of it. But if a 40 year old dates a 20 year old, oh boy it is shocking.

    Personally, as long as you both wait until you are legally of age before having intimate relations, I see nothing really wrong with a 5 year age gap. Me and my wife are 5 1/2 years different ourselves. And we started to date when she was 18 or 19, and I was 24/25.
    Love is the only thing that can cross all boundaries and cannot be stopped. It crosses countries, continents, oceans and even the stars themselves. It makes peace in the middle of war, and stops hatred in it's tracks. -Anon

    Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. - Apostle Paul in his first letter to the Church at Corinth (1 Corinthians 13:3-5)

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      #3
      Hi, seconded on the age gap issue!

      Me and the SO are 5 yrs apart-I'm 20, he's 25. I feel like as long as you two don't mind/notice the age gap, it isn't a deal breaker. As Richard said, as long as you both wait until you are legally of age before having intimate relations, I see nothing wrong either.

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        #4
        I think that as long as two people are happy, age doesn't matter. There is only just under two years between me and my SO and he's the younger one, but he's really mature. If the maturity wasn't there, I don't think it would have worked out. Even though we are different ages, we are practically the same person and I look at him as the same age as me because he doesn't look as young as he is I don't think and we have the same maturity level and I've been told that I have the maturity of a 30 year old when I'm only 19.
        My uncle and aunt used to be 13 years apart, and I know there's other people on this website who have age gaps in the relationship.
        I personally think as long as you are both happy, and it's legal, just these other two have said ^^ there's nothing wrong with it.
        You may get teased about it like I'm sure a LOT of us do, I myself am called a cougar every now and then, which really pisses me off, but they don't actually mean it. It's a tad annoying, but the people who do tease me know it isn't so and they know my SO

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          #5
          I am on board with the age gap argument. My SO is 5 1/2 years my senior. I'm 19 and he's 25. When we first started dated I was 17. When we first met I was 12- there was never romantic interest until much later. The age difference never really meant anything for me, because I had always been attracted to older men and I'm not very involved with people in my own age group. The age difference was more nerve wrecking for him, but once we talked it out it didn't seem to matter. Three months later I turned 18 and it rarely comes up.

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            #6
            The love of my life just turned 20, I just turned 31. We both don't even consider age to be an issue. Both of our families are very supportive and the fact I am older helps with a lot of issues really. Sometimes I act like the younger one lol. So good luck and don't let anyone or anything bring you down, as long as you are happy that is the most important thing. I would encourage you to tell your parents the truth though, if you can, and see if they can work it out. You would be surprised how understanding parents can be once they know the whole story. Especially, if they get to know him and realize that he loves and respects their daughter.

            Clint

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              #7
              Thanks for sharing your story! Age has no limit.....
              NY to Texas Married on...August 17th, 2013

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                #8
                Hey you can't help how you feel about someone..Like Pretty Ricky said "Age aint nothing but a number"..seems like it especcially nowadays Do what feels right and Good luck!
                " Love don't run....Love don't hide...Love don't turn away or back down from a fight.
                Baby I'm right here..and I and going anywhere"


                Mitch and Stephanie July 14, 2011

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                  #9
                  You should be so proud of yourself!!! If you met when you were 15 and kept it up for over a year, you are wise beyond your age! You are very mature and people your age group can't tell you any different! You go and show them up!!!

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                    #10
                    I know exactly what you're going through. The love of my life is 5 years my senior, we met online, and are about 2,000 miles apart. Your story has given me hope, though. I have been asking myself for weeks "can I really do this?" but seeing that you've been able to hold onto your relationship for over a year, and you were only 15 when it started (which speaks volumes about your maturity) gives me hope that maybe I can do it to. I wish both of you the best of luck.

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                      #11
                      My boyfriend and I are 7 years apart. I am 23 and he is 30, and people CONSTANTLY give us crap, thinking I'm some sort of 'escort' or that he just wanted a young girl to make him feel less like an old man. It's ridiculous and all we can do is just ignore it. Love is love, regardless of what form it may come in.

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                        #12
                        I'm 24 and my SO is 36; that's a 12 year age gap. We get crap about it all the time (from 2/3 of our parents...at least his mom is cool with it!). Its hard enough to deal with the distance, but the baggage that people throw at you just because of the age, it makes it so much harder. Like erinewelsh said, all you can do is ignore it. If you are happy that is all that matters. Stay strong, and best of luck!

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                          #13
                          Me and my boyfriend met online when i was 15 and he was 25. We've been happily together for almost a year now! The age never bothered me, but because it bothered him he decided to wait for a year for me to grow up little! I knew I was going to fall in love with him on the day that I met him, which is kinda cheesy i know but after 3 years of talking to the same person everyday I can still say that I love him more than anything. And now not even the over 4000 mile distance can keep us apart.

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                            #14
                            My LD ex that is the reason I came to this website is 13 years my senior. Don't think anybody knows that.. but perfect time to tell!
                            Age is absolutely nothing. It's all inside.

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                              #15
                              Was just reading this story and comments, loved it!
                              My partner and I have a very big age gap. I'm 21 in a day, and he is 55.

                              I think we tease each other more than other people could ever tease us. It's really as if we're the exact same age, and he happens to look older and I happen to look younger.


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