I met R in september 2010, my mom works at a hotel, and he and the other guys that work for this construction company were basically living there sunday-friday. one of the guys he worked with, asked my mom out on a date, my mom told the guy... "only if my daughter can go too" (she was to scared to go alone lol) so when we showed up to pick him up from his hotel room, he told us he invited one of his co-workers to go too because he never gets out of the hotel after work. well, he was very shy at first..he didnt say much..and i didnt look a it like a "fix up" or a "date". i didnt even dress up nice because i didnt expect to see anyone i needed to look good for lol. i was myself the entire night...i didnt try to impress him at all...after we ate we all stood outside the resturant talking,we ended up talking the entire ride home. the next day...my mom called to tell me that E told her...that R thought i was very attractive! lol of course like any other woman...this made me giddy! then i found out that E & R were coming to eat lunch where i work before they left to go home. while they were there eating..my mom gave R my phone number...we started texting each other that day....i was scared to even get close to him....but i told myself it doesnt hurt to talk to him...and just be friends..
well the next time we all went out it was kind of akward during dinner..but once we went outside ...we all started talking.. and things were cool again. we started texting a little bit more... and i started going up to my moms work place and he would come down to the lobby and sit and talk with me for hours!
one night he sat with me til 1am just talking...thats the night i knew i liked him...it was something about him ...when we made eye contact...there was just something there..something i've never felt before...it was and still is very strange to me...that night we had very deep conversations...about how both of us had been hurt....
the next date night we invited them out to our house to play the wii bowling...we had such a good time, laughing and talking... when he left that night he gave me a hug...but it was one of those "half" hugs lol it was akward but sweet. lol after he left i was talking to my mom..i told her i liked him...so i textd him and told him...he wrote back almost instantly and said he liked me to....and we were both like "what now" lol we decided to just go with it... so we started hanging out more at my moms workplace....
my mom works 2 night shifts...so we decided to go to her workplace a little early and hang out with the guys. ..when it was time for my mom to go to work...she reminded me i needed to get dog food, so i asked R if he wanted to ride with me..to get it and take it to my house... he offered to take their company truck and take me to the house...so we did...and when we got to my house he was sweet enough to carry the bag in the house for me.... I asked him if he wanted to stay and hang out for a little while...and of course he said yes.
we sat on the couch and watched tv for a little while..and talked.. then he got the bright idea to find out if i was ticklish or not. which sadly...he found out! LOL he had me falling off of the couch trying to get away from him, and dang near in tears from laughing so much...he was the same way though.... i was literally laying down on the couch..and had him pushed to the opposite end..trying to stop him...when finally he stop and stood up over me...and just looked at me with those pretty hazel eyes of his...and leaned down and kissed me..it was perfect... after he stopped kissing me...he layed beside me on the couch and asked me what i was thinking....at first i told him nothing....but he knew better..so he asked again...i told him straight up...."im not sleeping with you lol...i have rules" he told me he wasnt trying to sleep with me... then i told him.... "this scares the S*** out of me" he told me...he was scared too. i told him...that i made a promise to myself that id never let another man get close enough to hurt me again... he said he understood that and hes not gonna hurt me. so that convo continued...and he ended up staying the night with me...but NOTHING happened....we just went to sleep! it was very sweet!
i had ever intention of making him "wait" for at least a month....but... my hormones got the best of me the next day.. and after that we were inseperable...we spent every day together...(except work..and when he went home on the weekends) we went fishing together...to the movies..out to eat... all the things people that are dating do... i was falling for him.. hard.... and i thought he was too, until one night i decided i needed to know what we were we hadnt put a title to what we were "boyfriend girlfriend" or did he just see me as a ..."b-call" (which was NOT cool with me...) so i went to his room..and sat beside him..and told him we needed to talk....i asked him...what are we? he said "well i told you i didnt want anything serious" i said "um..no i dont remember you saying that.." i said .."am i not girlfriend material?" he said "yes you are...very much so...but u live here...i live there...thats gonna be hard" i said " dont you think if things got serious that the distance would change?" he said 'well yeah' i said "well whats the problem?" he said "i just dont think im ready for anything serious" i said "ok cool...well im not cool with just being someone u sleep with....i have feelings...that i need to turn off...and i can do that." ...so that was the end of that convo.after that night...i did not call him..i did not text him...i didnt go to my moms work at all...i was trying to show him...i didnt need him....even though i was so hurt..i cried and cried..i even had a "girls night" and got stupid drunk... and cried even more. ...he didnt try to contact me either... my mom's boyfriend E ..was around..and im sure he told R i was upset....E told me that R didnt act like he was upset at all...which hurt even more....well, E invited me and my mom to have thanksgiving dinner with his family.(before i had that talk with him and we were still talking i was looking forward to it....EVEN though... E told me that R told him that he didnt take women to his mom's house..so he hoped i understood that) well we were leaving the wed before thanksgiving to go down there..my mom had to work the night shift, so i decided to stay in a room at her workplace so when she got off work we could leave from there to head south....well my best friend stayed with me...and we had another girls night...with alcohol involved....we were both playing around online...i was on facebook..and i saw he was online...i was fighting with myself..wether or not i should speak to him...i didnt want to..b/c i didnt want to look stupid if he didnt say anything back.... i eventually sent a message saying "whats up" he said "not alot" i told him "im sorry" he said "why are you appologizing to me..you have no reason to" i said " yeah...i do...b/c i thought there was more between us than there really was" he said "there would be, if it wasnt for the distance" i told him "once again.dont you think the distance thing would change.." he said "yeah...i think so....look..im sorry, im just scared..i want to take you out to eat or something when you get here so we can talk about this" of course i was basially bouncing off of the walls when he said that.... we talked a little bit more after that... and i went to bed...when i got down there to E's house..i called R to tell him we made it.... he met us in their town and picked me up....i thought it would be akward between us...but it wasnt at all....he was like..what do u want to do today? i told him i didnt care, so he decided to just show me around town....and he did...then he had to run to his house and pick his nephew up and take him somewhere....i expected him to take me back to E's house .since he said he didnt take women to his moms hosue....well....shockingly he pulled up in his moms driveway instead of driving down to E's house...he parked his truck and said....well come on in and meet everybody..... i was SHOCKED completely! (we still hadnt had our conversation..yet) so i went inside and met his mom,dad,neices & nephew.. and his grandmother... the he took me next door to meet his brother and sister in law...then we left there and he took me to meet his best friend..
after that we went to the movies ...then back to E's house...and finally had "the conversation" i asked him...what changed in the past week... he said "i've just done alot of thinking, I'm not getting any younger, i need to think about settling myself down" i said " so what does that mean...you want me to be your girlfriend?" (which sounded completely high school-ish of me lol) he said "well yeah..we can try this" i said " ok so your completly 100% positive you want to be in a serious monogomous relationship?" he said "yes i am sure" and that was pretty much the whole conversation lol that was november 24,2010.. after that we spent the thanksgiving day together...and night.. things have been going good since then...he came to spend new years eve with me....and even though hes not the type that talks about his feelings, its obvious how he feels, just by the things he does, and the way he holds me.im falling really hard for him.. but im afraid to admit it to him... i tell him that im crazy about him...he says hes the same way .but i think b/c we both have been so hurt in the past..its best if we take things slow....
i say that...but at the same time...these feelings arent coming on slow. i just hope and pray the distance does not cause issues..i really really want things to work between us...i've never had a man make me feel the way he does...and i know theres something special between us.
anywho...thanks for reading my story!
well the next time we all went out it was kind of akward during dinner..but once we went outside ...we all started talking.. and things were cool again. we started texting a little bit more... and i started going up to my moms work place and he would come down to the lobby and sit and talk with me for hours!
one night he sat with me til 1am just talking...thats the night i knew i liked him...it was something about him ...when we made eye contact...there was just something there..something i've never felt before...it was and still is very strange to me...that night we had very deep conversations...about how both of us had been hurt....
the next date night we invited them out to our house to play the wii bowling...we had such a good time, laughing and talking... when he left that night he gave me a hug...but it was one of those "half" hugs lol it was akward but sweet. lol after he left i was talking to my mom..i told her i liked him...so i textd him and told him...he wrote back almost instantly and said he liked me to....and we were both like "what now" lol we decided to just go with it... so we started hanging out more at my moms workplace....
my mom works 2 night shifts...so we decided to go to her workplace a little early and hang out with the guys. ..when it was time for my mom to go to work...she reminded me i needed to get dog food, so i asked R if he wanted to ride with me..to get it and take it to my house... he offered to take their company truck and take me to the house...so we did...and when we got to my house he was sweet enough to carry the bag in the house for me.... I asked him if he wanted to stay and hang out for a little while...and of course he said yes.
we sat on the couch and watched tv for a little while..and talked.. then he got the bright idea to find out if i was ticklish or not. which sadly...he found out! LOL he had me falling off of the couch trying to get away from him, and dang near in tears from laughing so much...he was the same way though.... i was literally laying down on the couch..and had him pushed to the opposite end..trying to stop him...when finally he stop and stood up over me...and just looked at me with those pretty hazel eyes of his...and leaned down and kissed me..it was perfect... after he stopped kissing me...he layed beside me on the couch and asked me what i was thinking....at first i told him nothing....but he knew better..so he asked again...i told him straight up...."im not sleeping with you lol...i have rules" he told me he wasnt trying to sleep with me... then i told him.... "this scares the S*** out of me" he told me...he was scared too. i told him...that i made a promise to myself that id never let another man get close enough to hurt me again... he said he understood that and hes not gonna hurt me. so that convo continued...and he ended up staying the night with me...but NOTHING happened....we just went to sleep! it was very sweet!
i had ever intention of making him "wait" for at least a month....but... my hormones got the best of me the next day.. and after that we were inseperable...we spent every day together...(except work..and when he went home on the weekends) we went fishing together...to the movies..out to eat... all the things people that are dating do... i was falling for him.. hard.... and i thought he was too, until one night i decided i needed to know what we were we hadnt put a title to what we were "boyfriend girlfriend" or did he just see me as a ..."b-call" (which was NOT cool with me...) so i went to his room..and sat beside him..and told him we needed to talk....i asked him...what are we? he said "well i told you i didnt want anything serious" i said "um..no i dont remember you saying that.." i said .."am i not girlfriend material?" he said "yes you are...very much so...but u live here...i live there...thats gonna be hard" i said " dont you think if things got serious that the distance would change?" he said 'well yeah' i said "well whats the problem?" he said "i just dont think im ready for anything serious" i said "ok cool...well im not cool with just being someone u sleep with....i have feelings...that i need to turn off...and i can do that." ...so that was the end of that convo.after that night...i did not call him..i did not text him...i didnt go to my moms work at all...i was trying to show him...i didnt need him....even though i was so hurt..i cried and cried..i even had a "girls night" and got stupid drunk... and cried even more. ...he didnt try to contact me either... my mom's boyfriend E ..was around..and im sure he told R i was upset....E told me that R didnt act like he was upset at all...which hurt even more....well, E invited me and my mom to have thanksgiving dinner with his family.(before i had that talk with him and we were still talking i was looking forward to it....EVEN though... E told me that R told him that he didnt take women to his mom's house..so he hoped i understood that) well we were leaving the wed before thanksgiving to go down there..my mom had to work the night shift, so i decided to stay in a room at her workplace so when she got off work we could leave from there to head south....well my best friend stayed with me...and we had another girls night...with alcohol involved....we were both playing around online...i was on facebook..and i saw he was online...i was fighting with myself..wether or not i should speak to him...i didnt want to..b/c i didnt want to look stupid if he didnt say anything back.... i eventually sent a message saying "whats up" he said "not alot" i told him "im sorry" he said "why are you appologizing to me..you have no reason to" i said " yeah...i do...b/c i thought there was more between us than there really was" he said "there would be, if it wasnt for the distance" i told him "once again.dont you think the distance thing would change.." he said "yeah...i think so....look..im sorry, im just scared..i want to take you out to eat or something when you get here so we can talk about this" of course i was basially bouncing off of the walls when he said that.... we talked a little bit more after that... and i went to bed...when i got down there to E's house..i called R to tell him we made it.... he met us in their town and picked me up....i thought it would be akward between us...but it wasnt at all....he was like..what do u want to do today? i told him i didnt care, so he decided to just show me around town....and he did...then he had to run to his house and pick his nephew up and take him somewhere....i expected him to take me back to E's house .since he said he didnt take women to his moms hosue....well....shockingly he pulled up in his moms driveway instead of driving down to E's house...he parked his truck and said....well come on in and meet everybody..... i was SHOCKED completely! (we still hadnt had our conversation..yet) so i went inside and met his mom,dad,neices & nephew.. and his grandmother... the he took me next door to meet his brother and sister in law...then we left there and he took me to meet his best friend..
after that we went to the movies ...then back to E's house...and finally had "the conversation" i asked him...what changed in the past week... he said "i've just done alot of thinking, I'm not getting any younger, i need to think about settling myself down" i said " so what does that mean...you want me to be your girlfriend?" (which sounded completely high school-ish of me lol) he said "well yeah..we can try this" i said " ok so your completly 100% positive you want to be in a serious monogomous relationship?" he said "yes i am sure" and that was pretty much the whole conversation lol that was november 24,2010.. after that we spent the thanksgiving day together...and night.. things have been going good since then...he came to spend new years eve with me....and even though hes not the type that talks about his feelings, its obvious how he feels, just by the things he does, and the way he holds me.im falling really hard for him.. but im afraid to admit it to him... i tell him that im crazy about him...he says hes the same way .but i think b/c we both have been so hurt in the past..its best if we take things slow....
i say that...but at the same time...these feelings arent coming on slow. i just hope and pray the distance does not cause issues..i really really want things to work between us...i've never had a man make me feel the way he does...and i know theres something special between us.
anywho...thanks for reading my story!
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