I am from Michigan, USA, he is from England.
Last year, a friend and I planned a trip to London in the summer. We both had never been out of the country and were very excited, and joked about shopping, running around the city and going out to the bars every night and meeting cute English guys.
Until..... she ended up meeting an English guy online a few months before our trip. They decided they really were serious about each other and planned to meet during our London trip. They would be spending our whole London trip together. Our whole "two single girls in a foreign country" scenario was not going to be played. I got over it, telling myself I would still have a good time. A few weeks before our trip, her guy's roomate/good friend, Michael, messaged me on Facebook, saying that he figured since the two of them would be spending a lot of time together, he was thinking we could meet up. It caught me by surprise, and before I messaged him back, I figured it was an attempted "set up" and got kind of irritated (I dislike set ups!!) but I confirmed with my friend that it was not a set up, and he had messaged me on his own terms.
Michael and I talked over Facebook a bit more before my trip, just friendly chat. He did come to London and we met for the first time and spent the day whole day together. After it was over, I wasn't sure what to think. A few days later, I found out he "fancied me" (they use such cute words) and I was surprised, and admitted my feelings as well.
Needless to say, we ended up spending the rest of my trip together and enjoyed being around each other. During my trip the thought of a LDR never popped into my head, I guess I just tried to tell myself not to get attached because it would be impossible for us to be together. The night before I left we found ourselves more upset then we ever thought and realized we had developed more than just a "fling". When I returned back to the US, we started Skyping a lot and discussed a LDR, and decided we could both be committed, and would give it a try. He has visited me in the states twice now and I have been to England for a second time and we have met each others parents and family, both families couldn't be happier. We have also been on mini trips to Amsterdam and Chicago and want to see more of the world together.
Although every day I wish we didn't have to suffer through a LDR, I also think how lucky I am to have met someone special...I would never meet a guy like him here in the states! So I guess everything good in life doesn't exactly come easy....
Unfourtantly right now, we are kind of stuck....we do not have a date to next see each other(he was last here 3 weeks ago), or any ideas for being together in the future, though we both agreed that is what we want. I work part time and go to school part time and he works full time and has almost used up all his vacation time already this year. Though both of us have said that we would be willing to make the move to the others country, both of us are now being stubborn and it still hasn't progressed much. I won't be done with school for at least 2 more years and I am hoping to be with him before then but I am not sure if studying in England is in my budget or degree program. My family keeps being very selfish and pressuring me to get him to move here, but I am not going to force him or pressure him to do that and I wish they would get off my back!
It is my turn to go to England next, but flights are more expensive in the summer, well close to $1,000(200-300 more than I was spending in the off season, which was already expensive) and it is just adding more to how hard this really is.
We are trying to be strong and take things as they come, and hopefully figure something out in the next year....
thanks for reading, if you have any honest comments, suggestions, or anything, please let me know. thanks!
Last year, a friend and I planned a trip to London in the summer. We both had never been out of the country and were very excited, and joked about shopping, running around the city and going out to the bars every night and meeting cute English guys.
Until..... she ended up meeting an English guy online a few months before our trip. They decided they really were serious about each other and planned to meet during our London trip. They would be spending our whole London trip together. Our whole "two single girls in a foreign country" scenario was not going to be played. I got over it, telling myself I would still have a good time. A few weeks before our trip, her guy's roomate/good friend, Michael, messaged me on Facebook, saying that he figured since the two of them would be spending a lot of time together, he was thinking we could meet up. It caught me by surprise, and before I messaged him back, I figured it was an attempted "set up" and got kind of irritated (I dislike set ups!!) but I confirmed with my friend that it was not a set up, and he had messaged me on his own terms.
Michael and I talked over Facebook a bit more before my trip, just friendly chat. He did come to London and we met for the first time and spent the day whole day together. After it was over, I wasn't sure what to think. A few days later, I found out he "fancied me" (they use such cute words) and I was surprised, and admitted my feelings as well.
Needless to say, we ended up spending the rest of my trip together and enjoyed being around each other. During my trip the thought of a LDR never popped into my head, I guess I just tried to tell myself not to get attached because it would be impossible for us to be together. The night before I left we found ourselves more upset then we ever thought and realized we had developed more than just a "fling". When I returned back to the US, we started Skyping a lot and discussed a LDR, and decided we could both be committed, and would give it a try. He has visited me in the states twice now and I have been to England for a second time and we have met each others parents and family, both families couldn't be happier. We have also been on mini trips to Amsterdam and Chicago and want to see more of the world together.
Although every day I wish we didn't have to suffer through a LDR, I also think how lucky I am to have met someone special...I would never meet a guy like him here in the states! So I guess everything good in life doesn't exactly come easy....
Unfourtantly right now, we are kind of stuck....we do not have a date to next see each other(he was last here 3 weeks ago), or any ideas for being together in the future, though we both agreed that is what we want. I work part time and go to school part time and he works full time and has almost used up all his vacation time already this year. Though both of us have said that we would be willing to make the move to the others country, both of us are now being stubborn and it still hasn't progressed much. I won't be done with school for at least 2 more years and I am hoping to be with him before then but I am not sure if studying in England is in my budget or degree program. My family keeps being very selfish and pressuring me to get him to move here, but I am not going to force him or pressure him to do that and I wish they would get off my back!
It is my turn to go to England next, but flights are more expensive in the summer, well close to $1,000(200-300 more than I was spending in the off season, which was already expensive) and it is just adding more to how hard this really is.
We are trying to be strong and take things as they come, and hopefully figure something out in the next year....
thanks for reading, if you have any honest comments, suggestions, or anything, please let me know. thanks!
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