Hi everyone,
I've been feeling pretty down about my LDR the past few days and I stumbled upon this forum. Reading all these stories has really given me some hope and it's always so comforting to know that there are others out there experiencing the same things I am.
Anyway, so here's my story: My SO and I met in Tokyo when we were both studying abroad with the same program. We clicked immediately and began going out about 3 weeks into the program, and our time in Japan was probably some of the happiest of my life. He lives in Hong Kong, but went to college in Vermont while I went to college in upstate New York. The distance was completely manageable as it was only about a 1:40 drive apart.
But now, we've both graduated and he has just moved to Sydney, Australia for veterinary studies and I work in NYC. We are 9935 miles apart and have a 14 hour time difference. I visited him just last week on a one week trip to Australia, but before that, we hadn't seen each other for an entire year. Unfortunately, on the very last day of the trip I broke down crying from frustration/impending loneliness/the impossibility of managing an extreme LDR. A flight from NY to Australia is about 21 hours and it's also extremely pricey... in addition, the vet program is 5 years long and he just began this February. And one more critical detail: his parents don't know about me. They are extremely strict people and my SO is afraid that if they knew about us, they would try to break us apart.
So the above is basically all the reasons I am a little depressed and little lost right now. We've discussed our relationship and agreed that 5 years is a very long wait and we are just beginning our careers and shouldn't let our relationship with each other affect our professional pursuits - we're both on very different paths right now, and nothing is for certain. Maybe I won't stay in NYC and he is most likely not staying in Australia after graduation. In 5 years, we'll both already be 28 and with his schedule it's extremely hard to pinpoint when we'll see each other again - it could be another whole year.
We love each other immensely but have decided not to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend for the time being to relieve the pressure a little. We still talk to each other all the time and say 'I love yous.' Yeah, it's a bit complicated... but I really, really do not want to be beaten by this long distance!!!
Thanks in advance, everyone, for hearing me out I welcome any words of advice/hope/reality checks
I've been feeling pretty down about my LDR the past few days and I stumbled upon this forum. Reading all these stories has really given me some hope and it's always so comforting to know that there are others out there experiencing the same things I am.
Anyway, so here's my story: My SO and I met in Tokyo when we were both studying abroad with the same program. We clicked immediately and began going out about 3 weeks into the program, and our time in Japan was probably some of the happiest of my life. He lives in Hong Kong, but went to college in Vermont while I went to college in upstate New York. The distance was completely manageable as it was only about a 1:40 drive apart.
But now, we've both graduated and he has just moved to Sydney, Australia for veterinary studies and I work in NYC. We are 9935 miles apart and have a 14 hour time difference. I visited him just last week on a one week trip to Australia, but before that, we hadn't seen each other for an entire year. Unfortunately, on the very last day of the trip I broke down crying from frustration/impending loneliness/the impossibility of managing an extreme LDR. A flight from NY to Australia is about 21 hours and it's also extremely pricey... in addition, the vet program is 5 years long and he just began this February. And one more critical detail: his parents don't know about me. They are extremely strict people and my SO is afraid that if they knew about us, they would try to break us apart.
So the above is basically all the reasons I am a little depressed and little lost right now. We've discussed our relationship and agreed that 5 years is a very long wait and we are just beginning our careers and shouldn't let our relationship with each other affect our professional pursuits - we're both on very different paths right now, and nothing is for certain. Maybe I won't stay in NYC and he is most likely not staying in Australia after graduation. In 5 years, we'll both already be 28 and with his schedule it's extremely hard to pinpoint when we'll see each other again - it could be another whole year.
We love each other immensely but have decided not to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend for the time being to relieve the pressure a little. We still talk to each other all the time and say 'I love yous.' Yeah, it's a bit complicated... but I really, really do not want to be beaten by this long distance!!!
Thanks in advance, everyone, for hearing me out I welcome any words of advice/hope/reality checks
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