I thought it was time I posted my and my SO's story here 
I've been meaning to for awhile now, but I thought today, since today we've been together exactly 9 months, was quite an apt day to post it on.
Let me begin by saying that I've had my fair share of upset through LDRs. I've had two in the past before I met my SO and both fell through badly, leaving me doubtful whether they could actually work out at all and very sensitive on the subject. I often used to get upset whenever the subject was broached but it doesn't really bother me anymore, because what's been done's been done, and with my SO and our futures together being one of my main focuses, I don't dwell on the past now.
For me, it began on the 7th of November 2010, when I found myself praying for good fortune to come my way and for companionship. I'd been having a rough time at school, with hardly any friends to turn to and confide in, and I didn't really feel talking to my parents about it. Loneliness was a serious issue for me: I'm quite introverted and I'm not the easiest person ever to open up to people, and I found it hard to make friends with anyone in my school since I didn't really feel like I fitted in anywhere. I felt like the odd one out always, since I was quietly content to sit on my own and do my own thing. I'm not really into the whole huge crowd of friends thing, I like having only a couple of friends who I know will stick by me no matter what and always be there for me when I need them and vice versa. I'm not exactly religious either, but I wanted to believe that there was someone up there watching, and that whoever it was, would hear me, which is why I prayed. I didn't honestly think anything would come of it, but I was going to be extremely surprised when I found out how wrong I was. xD
A few days later, a girl called Sam who I'd known for awhile, who lived in England and around half a day's journey away, started to talk to me out of the blue on Facebook and I was astounded how quickly we became close friends. In less than a day, it was as if we'd known each other for years! I'd had her added as a friend on facebook for awhile, but we didn't really talk that much until that day. I couldn't believe it: I'm not one to believe in coincidences, but it seemed almost too good to be true! But it didn't end there, because it seemed that my recent stroke of bad luck was about to turn into an incredibly good stroke of luck
I've always loved my gadgets, thanks to my dad lol. I'm a massive gamer too, be it on PC or xbox, or even on the iPod and it seemed that this love would be my saving grace xD. I love my iPod touch, that my dad had given to me only a month previously, and I love my music too, namely rock and metal, but some pop too (A.K.A Lady Gaga lol). I'd been using an music game app on the iPod called Tap Tap Revenge 3, which is similar in style to Guitar Hero and Rock Band only much more addictive
The app had an online mode, where you could visit chatrooms that other Tap Tap Revenge users could use in order to talk to each other, and it was here that I first met him. Completely by chance.
I'd been moving between chatrooms, talking to random people, when I finally chose to visit the chatroom called "Linkin Park Revenge", a band whose songs I adore. It was here that I first met the guy who, unbeknownst to me at the time, would become the love of my life <3 He went by the username Darkstar127, and because my own username was so random and different and it caught his attention (RAWRcookies haha), he started to talk to me and it was from there that things began to take off I didn't really think much of it at the time though, and when he asked me to PM him, it was just completely out of the blue that I did, because I didn't like doing it normally but I felt compelled to, oddly enough. It was through PM that we really started to chat, and after a rather different first conversation (to say the least haha) where I almost stopped talking to him because I was a bit wary (
), I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and we carried on talking and I'm glad we did. Because it was the best decision I've made in a very long time! XD
We'd been talking non stop for about a week when I first started to get the hint he saw me as more than just a friend. He'd often stay up well into the hours of the night so we could talk and be together and I loved it, spending as much time as I could allow to return the favour. I could tell he loved my company, and I his...the feeling was mutual We swapped cell phone numbers, so we could text each other occasionally. He would wait for me to wake up and we'd immediately start talking, practically from the moment I woke, and I did the same, waiting till the moment he'd wake up and I'd be able to talk to him again. It was extremely heartwarming when we found out how alike we were; we both had extremely similar hobbies and music tastes, not to mention personalities. We both complimented each other immensely Since he lives in Arizona and I live in England, the time difference is around 7-8 hours (AZ doesn't have its own time zone, which confuses me during saver-times lol) and although awkward, we were able to adapt to it fairly quickly. He would often flirt with me and I thought at first he was just joking, but it turned out he wasn't and when I learned this, I wasn't sure how to react at first. I was already in a relationship with someone, but I could feel it falling apart, and I was unsure what to do. We knew each other by that stage like we'd known each other forever: he was aware of my feelings on LDRs, and he knew of the problems I'd had. I was aware he'd had problems too, with several failed LDRs he'd had in the past. I told Sam about him, that we were extremely close, even though we'd only known each other for a short while, and I told her that I suspected he had feelings for me, closer still than that. I told her that I didn't really feel that sort of closeness, but I did consider him to be my best friend. She told me to think it over, consider what I really felt, was it something more? That was when I realised, deep down, that it was infact something more, and that I'd been falling for him without me even realising it. I was hesitant to consider entering another LDR, since the previous ones had ended badly and hurt me, but I realised I loved him, and that the way he made me feel was something incredibly special. I'd never felt something so strong as I had done with him, and I was certain he was the one for me. I have no way of describing my certainty, I just KNEW. I loved him for who he was, for every little detail about him....I was certain in the fact that it wasn't just me who felt this way. I somehow knew he did too, about me, and it was with this knowledge that I made my decision.
I didn't feel like I was making a mistake ending my then current relationship, rather that I was doing the right thing. It didn't fill me with guilt, rather relief....I'd begun to see how much of mistake I'd been making by staying in that relationship. Chris, my soon to be SO, later told me he loved me, and that he'd had conflicting emotions about me too, in a very similar way. I wanted him to ask me out, but I think he was as nervous as I was, so I plucked up the courage to ask him if it technically meant I was his girlfriend, since he'd been making it out like I was in the many conversations we'd been having, and he told me that he'd love it if I could be, but only if I wanted to be. I told him I'd started to think of him as that too and we both laughed, and from there that was where things really began for us as a couple in an LDR.
We've stuck by each other since and through thick and thin, using msn, facebook, Skype and a number of other things to stay in touch on a daily basis, texting and talking to each other as much as possible. We've had our up and downs, but then again it's one of the many things that comes with being in an LDR. For the most part, we have to keep our relationship a secret from our parents since they would never approve of us being together, at least until the time is right. We've yet to meet, but hopefully that will all change soon We are extremely serious, and we've already decided that once the time is right, when finances are sorted out, once we've both left school and uni and have jobs that give us a decent salary, Chris will make the move to come over here to be with me and hopefully live here permanently. We have a lot standing against us, particularly with the issue of his parents (they're extremely strict and mean in my opinion lol) and we've both had a lot of stick from those who know about our relationship, but we both have the "Who cares?!" attitude and this has been a massive help We also have a lot of love for each other, and we're both strong, and I know that this will be what we need to help us through all the times ahead <3 We may be 5100 miles away from one another, but our love for one another and determination to be together, not to mention the inspiration and strength the success stories from this forum give us, has given us the strength to keep our LDR alive! <3 Love prevails all, ESPECIALLY DISTANCE! xD
If you've taken the time to read this thread, I would like to say thank you, because I can't tell you what a relief it is to be able to tell someone. Having to keep this story a secret has been difficult since I've never met anyone who has yet to accept it and that I've felt would listen to me. Here at least....I feel that I have people who will understand my situation and be able to comprehend what it's like to be in an LDR.
I no longer feel alone, and neither does Chris.
I love you, my soulmate <3 Am fyth!
I've been meaning to for awhile now, but I thought today, since today we've been together exactly 9 months, was quite an apt day to post it on. Let me begin by saying that I've had my fair share of upset through LDRs. I've had two in the past before I met my SO and both fell through badly, leaving me doubtful whether they could actually work out at all and very sensitive on the subject. I often used to get upset whenever the subject was broached but it doesn't really bother me anymore, because what's been done's been done, and with my SO and our futures together being one of my main focuses, I don't dwell on the past now.
For me, it began on the 7th of November 2010, when I found myself praying for good fortune to come my way and for companionship. I'd been having a rough time at school, with hardly any friends to turn to and confide in, and I didn't really feel talking to my parents about it. Loneliness was a serious issue for me: I'm quite introverted and I'm not the easiest person ever to open up to people, and I found it hard to make friends with anyone in my school since I didn't really feel like I fitted in anywhere. I felt like the odd one out always, since I was quietly content to sit on my own and do my own thing. I'm not really into the whole huge crowd of friends thing, I like having only a couple of friends who I know will stick by me no matter what and always be there for me when I need them and vice versa. I'm not exactly religious either, but I wanted to believe that there was someone up there watching, and that whoever it was, would hear me, which is why I prayed. I didn't honestly think anything would come of it, but I was going to be extremely surprised when I found out how wrong I was. xD
A few days later, a girl called Sam who I'd known for awhile, who lived in England and around half a day's journey away, started to talk to me out of the blue on Facebook and I was astounded how quickly we became close friends. In less than a day, it was as if we'd known each other for years! I'd had her added as a friend on facebook for awhile, but we didn't really talk that much until that day. I couldn't believe it: I'm not one to believe in coincidences, but it seemed almost too good to be true! But it didn't end there, because it seemed that my recent stroke of bad luck was about to turn into an incredibly good stroke of luck
I've always loved my gadgets, thanks to my dad lol. I'm a massive gamer too, be it on PC or xbox, or even on the iPod and it seemed that this love would be my saving grace xD. I love my iPod touch, that my dad had given to me only a month previously, and I love my music too, namely rock and metal, but some pop too (A.K.A Lady Gaga lol). I'd been using an music game app on the iPod called Tap Tap Revenge 3, which is similar in style to Guitar Hero and Rock Band only much more addictive
The app had an online mode, where you could visit chatrooms that other Tap Tap Revenge users could use in order to talk to each other, and it was here that I first met him. Completely by chance.I'd been moving between chatrooms, talking to random people, when I finally chose to visit the chatroom called "Linkin Park Revenge", a band whose songs I adore. It was here that I first met the guy who, unbeknownst to me at the time, would become the love of my life <3 He went by the username Darkstar127, and because my own username was so random and different and it caught his attention (RAWRcookies haha), he started to talk to me and it was from there that things began to take off
I didn't really think much of it at the time though, and when he asked me to PM him, it was just completely out of the blue that I did, because I didn't like doing it normally but I felt compelled to, oddly enough. It was through PM that we really started to chat, and after a rather different first conversation (to say the least haha) where I almost stopped talking to him because I was a bit wary (), I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and we carried on talking and I'm glad we did. Because it was the best decision I've made in a very long time! XDWe'd been talking non stop for about a week when I first started to get the hint he saw me as more than just a friend. He'd often stay up well into the hours of the night so we could talk and be together and I loved it, spending as much time as I could allow to return the favour. I could tell he loved my company, and I his...the feeling was mutual
We swapped cell phone numbers, so we could text each other occasionally. He would wait for me to wake up and we'd immediately start talking, practically from the moment I woke, and I did the same, waiting till the moment he'd wake up and I'd be able to talk to him again. It was extremely heartwarming when we found out how alike we were; we both had extremely similar hobbies and music tastes, not to mention personalities. We both complimented each other immensely Since he lives in Arizona and I live in England, the time difference is around 7-8 hours (AZ doesn't have its own time zone, which confuses me during saver-times lol) and although awkward, we were able to adapt to it fairly quickly. He would often flirt with me and I thought at first he was just joking, but it turned out he wasn't and when I learned this, I wasn't sure how to react at first. I was already in a relationship with someone, but I could feel it falling apart, and I was unsure what to do. We knew each other by that stage like we'd known each other forever: he was aware of my feelings on LDRs, and he knew of the problems I'd had. I was aware he'd had problems too, with several failed LDRs he'd had in the past. I told Sam about him, that we were extremely close, even though we'd only known each other for a short while, and I told her that I suspected he had feelings for me, closer still than that. I told her that I didn't really feel that sort of closeness, but I did consider him to be my best friend. She told me to think it over, consider what I really felt, was it something more? That was when I realised, deep down, that it was infact something more, and that I'd been falling for him without me even realising it. I was hesitant to consider entering another LDR, since the previous ones had ended badly and hurt me, but I realised I loved him, and that the way he made me feel was something incredibly special. I'd never felt something so strong as I had done with him, and I was certain he was the one for me. I have no way of describing my certainty, I just KNEW. I loved him for who he was, for every little detail about him....I was certain in the fact that it wasn't just me who felt this way. I somehow knew he did too, about me, and it was with this knowledge that I made my decision.I didn't feel like I was making a mistake ending my then current relationship, rather that I was doing the right thing. It didn't fill me with guilt, rather relief....I'd begun to see how much of mistake I'd been making by staying in that relationship. Chris, my soon to be SO, later told me he loved me, and that he'd had conflicting emotions about me too, in a very similar way. I wanted him to ask me out, but I think he was as nervous as I was, so I plucked up the courage to ask him if it technically meant I was his girlfriend, since he'd been making it out like I was in the many conversations we'd been having, and he told me that he'd love it if I could be, but only if I wanted to be. I told him I'd started to think of him as that too and we both laughed, and from there that was where things really began for us as a couple in an LDR.
We've stuck by each other since and through thick and thin, using msn, facebook, Skype and a number of other things to stay in touch on a daily basis, texting and talking to each other as much as possible. We've had our up and downs, but then again it's one of the many things that comes with being in an LDR. For the most part, we have to keep our relationship a secret from our parents since they would never approve of us being together, at least until the time is right. We've yet to meet, but hopefully that will all change soon
We are extremely serious, and we've already decided that once the time is right, when finances are sorted out, once we've both left school and uni and have jobs that give us a decent salary, Chris will make the move to come over here to be with me and hopefully live here permanently. We have a lot standing against us, particularly with the issue of his parents (they're extremely strict and mean in my opinion lol) and we've both had a lot of stick from those who know about our relationship, but we both have the "Who cares?!" attitude and this has been a massive help We also have a lot of love for each other, and we're both strong, and I know that this will be what we need to help us through all the times ahead <3 We may be 5100 miles away from one another, but our love for one another and determination to be together, not to mention the inspiration and strength the success stories from this forum give us, has given us the strength to keep our LDR alive! <3 Love prevails all, ESPECIALLY DISTANCE! xDIf you've taken the time to read this thread, I would like to say thank you, because I can't tell you what a relief it is to be able to tell someone. Having to keep this story a secret has been difficult since I've never met anyone who has yet to accept it and that I've felt would listen to me. Here at least....I feel that I have people who will understand my situation and be able to comprehend what it's like to be in an LDR.
I no longer feel alone, and neither does Chris.
I love you, my soulmate <3 Am fyth!
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