As a military brat I swore up and down never to be involved with a military relationship I witnessed first hand how bad things could and honestly only be I thought I wasn’t cut out for it. fast forward a few year and I joined the medical corp as a nurse and live in California while my brother and father are both based in Hawaii it was my first taste of a long distance relationship but we made it work we had because we had no choice.
When I met Alex when I had just come back from a tour in Iraq, my brother convinced me to go to a bonfire to clear out the ugly cobwebs in my head and my father fully agreed at the bonfire my brother introduced me to Alex and he was leaving with my brother to Iraq in a week the strange thing about it was I liked him he was a nice guy and within a week we became inseparable friends our friendship was just so easy he’s the easiest person to speak to and we could speak for hours on end about nothing and everything. Alex tells the truth and doesn’t try and make it seem better or easier you want the truth you go to him he’s the most honest person I know and with in seconds of meeting him I trusted him. Alex and I were just friends and in those 5 years we’ve been through a lot together and whatever one of us was dealing with the other was there no matter how hard or where we were we there and stuck it out together the idea of us dating was pretty much laughable my brother thought it laughable that we hadn’t been dating and but left it that! One year my leave fell exactly around the time of the marine ball and Alex asked me to go at first I said no but he finally convinced to go after the ball something changed for both of us whether it was before or after we cant really figure it out but everything changed. we suddenly started spending more time together and the more time I spent with him the more I began to realize how much I missed him when he wasn't around I looked forward to seeing him when we planned a thing – I couldn't get him out of my head I was starting to develop a big crush on him the minute I realized it you’d think I’d go for but no I freaked out badly and started avoiding him I couldn’t have a crush on him he was a freaking marine! So I became more "busier" than usual and he seemed busier too I just hoped I’d get over it and soon! Until we both faced another deployment Alex was going to Iraq and I was going to Afghan Alex and I once again found myself in Hawaii for a four days before we got sent out our normal easy conversation just didn’t exist anymore I was terrified and convinced myself that he knew, he knew I liked him and he was avoiding me because of it eventually the day before I left he came over to my dads house and forced me to go for a walk and it wasn’t long until we both just told it like it was we both like each other and way more than just friends but still didn’t get together we couldn’t decide anything because we wanted to do it right this couldn’t just be a spur of a moment decision even as right as what it felt I knew I couldn’t give him a yes or no answer because I’d be in a plane in less than 17 hours and on my way Afghan and he’d be on a plan in less than 72 hours to Iraq I just knew that as much as I was all for making a decision right then and there I couldn’t I had to be sure completely and absolutely sure that Alex and I weren’t making a decision that could effect our lives forever because a deployment was hanging over both our heads it really wasn’t the time to decide anything.
Alex’s tour was 6 months and mine was 10 in those 10 month Alex and spoke a lot in letters about us we wrote everyday and when he got home he turned it up another notch and started sending care packages and survival kits and would sent my favorite thing he always surprised and always came up with something new I couldn’t wait for the next letter or carepackage he also surprised me with things I said in passing that he remembered in those 10 months I had fallen for Alex it happened quickly and I had no idea when I just knew it happened this was the guy I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. When I got home I went straight to Hawaii and walking though arrivals I saw Alex immediately my heart was beating a million miles a minute confirming how badly I had fallen for him I felt so nervous I had no idea what to even think so much time had past since our talk on the beach and though we kept in touch and in a lot of our letters spoke about us I still had no idea where I stood with him he walked over and hugged me tightly and told me he was glad I made it home safe I said nothing I couldn’t because I was just enjoying the feeling of being in his arms again and how much they felt like they should be there forever he eventually let go and he then said with his poker face that he’d made a decision he didn’t want to be my friend anymore and he actually couldn’t because I’d been driving him insane for 10 months straight it was time we officially made us officially because he loved me to much to have me dangling in the unknown I could have been more happier I really couldn’t and we officially made us official on 4th September 2009 in the middle of the Honolulu international airport right out of Afghan I hadn’t been in the States for more than 15 min – timing you’ve got to love it.
Our relationship isn’t the easiest relationship in the world but we work on it everyday every deployment every minute, hour, or day we apart makes us stronger I cant believe how many times I’ve fallen in love with him in the last two years he always springs something on me that I never expected and I have never been so sure about one person in my life – he’s turned everything around for me. I know I can do this I know us being so far apart is like a pin prick in the bigger picture the military yes another pin prick but we making it work and I know that the Hawaii/ California thing isn’t going to be forever but I also know that whatever we go through now is worth because one day we will be together in the same place and right now whatever get I’m happy with!!
When I met Alex when I had just come back from a tour in Iraq, my brother convinced me to go to a bonfire to clear out the ugly cobwebs in my head and my father fully agreed at the bonfire my brother introduced me to Alex and he was leaving with my brother to Iraq in a week the strange thing about it was I liked him he was a nice guy and within a week we became inseparable friends our friendship was just so easy he’s the easiest person to speak to and we could speak for hours on end about nothing and everything. Alex tells the truth and doesn’t try and make it seem better or easier you want the truth you go to him he’s the most honest person I know and with in seconds of meeting him I trusted him. Alex and I were just friends and in those 5 years we’ve been through a lot together and whatever one of us was dealing with the other was there no matter how hard or where we were we there and stuck it out together the idea of us dating was pretty much laughable my brother thought it laughable that we hadn’t been dating and but left it that! One year my leave fell exactly around the time of the marine ball and Alex asked me to go at first I said no but he finally convinced to go after the ball something changed for both of us whether it was before or after we cant really figure it out but everything changed. we suddenly started spending more time together and the more time I spent with him the more I began to realize how much I missed him when he wasn't around I looked forward to seeing him when we planned a thing – I couldn't get him out of my head I was starting to develop a big crush on him the minute I realized it you’d think I’d go for but no I freaked out badly and started avoiding him I couldn’t have a crush on him he was a freaking marine! So I became more "busier" than usual and he seemed busier too I just hoped I’d get over it and soon! Until we both faced another deployment Alex was going to Iraq and I was going to Afghan Alex and I once again found myself in Hawaii for a four days before we got sent out our normal easy conversation just didn’t exist anymore I was terrified and convinced myself that he knew, he knew I liked him and he was avoiding me because of it eventually the day before I left he came over to my dads house and forced me to go for a walk and it wasn’t long until we both just told it like it was we both like each other and way more than just friends but still didn’t get together we couldn’t decide anything because we wanted to do it right this couldn’t just be a spur of a moment decision even as right as what it felt I knew I couldn’t give him a yes or no answer because I’d be in a plane in less than 17 hours and on my way Afghan and he’d be on a plan in less than 72 hours to Iraq I just knew that as much as I was all for making a decision right then and there I couldn’t I had to be sure completely and absolutely sure that Alex and I weren’t making a decision that could effect our lives forever because a deployment was hanging over both our heads it really wasn’t the time to decide anything.
Alex’s tour was 6 months and mine was 10 in those 10 month Alex and spoke a lot in letters about us we wrote everyday and when he got home he turned it up another notch and started sending care packages and survival kits and would sent my favorite thing he always surprised and always came up with something new I couldn’t wait for the next letter or carepackage he also surprised me with things I said in passing that he remembered in those 10 months I had fallen for Alex it happened quickly and I had no idea when I just knew it happened this was the guy I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. When I got home I went straight to Hawaii and walking though arrivals I saw Alex immediately my heart was beating a million miles a minute confirming how badly I had fallen for him I felt so nervous I had no idea what to even think so much time had past since our talk on the beach and though we kept in touch and in a lot of our letters spoke about us I still had no idea where I stood with him he walked over and hugged me tightly and told me he was glad I made it home safe I said nothing I couldn’t because I was just enjoying the feeling of being in his arms again and how much they felt like they should be there forever he eventually let go and he then said with his poker face that he’d made a decision he didn’t want to be my friend anymore and he actually couldn’t because I’d been driving him insane for 10 months straight it was time we officially made us officially because he loved me to much to have me dangling in the unknown I could have been more happier I really couldn’t and we officially made us official on 4th September 2009 in the middle of the Honolulu international airport right out of Afghan I hadn’t been in the States for more than 15 min – timing you’ve got to love it.
Our relationship isn’t the easiest relationship in the world but we work on it everyday every deployment every minute, hour, or day we apart makes us stronger I cant believe how many times I’ve fallen in love with him in the last two years he always springs something on me that I never expected and I have never been so sure about one person in my life – he’s turned everything around for me. I know I can do this I know us being so far apart is like a pin prick in the bigger picture the military yes another pin prick but we making it work and I know that the Hawaii/ California thing isn’t going to be forever but I also know that whatever we go through now is worth because one day we will be together in the same place and right now whatever get I’m happy with!!
I hope everything works out for you guys. I wish you all the luck in the world!
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