After staring at this page for at least 10 minutes, I guess I'll just have at it.
To sum up our relationship, for those who don't know: Nix & I started dating in the spring semester of our last year at university, that was January 2011. We were CD until we graduated in May, and I went home to WI and he stayed in IN. I moved to GA in June for my new job, and he stayed in IN until the end of August. In December work asked me to move to TX at the beginning of January. So I did. He stayed in GA. In July, he moved home to IN while I found out I would be moving to VA. I didn't end up moving until August 2012, but I moved. In Oct 2012 he came to VA to visit for a few days, and we drove back to IN to visit there a few days. He proposed that weekend.
I flew back to VA, and we started wedding planning. In June 2013 I was told I'd be moving to MD at the completion of the VA project, which would be early September. So in September I moved here to MD. Early October he moved to MD, and then we got married Oct 26, back in IN!
So to break it down, we were CD for 9 months total of our relationship prior to marriage. LD for a total of 26 months before our wedding day. We've been married for just over a month now, and life has been pretty good to us so far. It's presented some challenges, but honestly, I think we're still getting used to the idea that I'm not leaving, and neither is he. When we went on our honeymoon, it was VERY weird because for the first time ever, he didn't drop me off and drive away at the airport. And now this weekend we will be flying together to visit his family for the weekend. Once again, I imagine it will be weird. Going to the airport together, and coming back together.
If I could tell anyone in a LDR one piece of advice, it's this: have patience. I struggled with patience - I still do. Have patience with yourself, with your SO, with your families, friends, neighbors, etc. Because you will always get "those" questions from people - those who know you and those who don't. "How do you manage?" "Isn't it hard?" "When will you see each other again?" That last one is the worst, especially when the answer is "We're not sure." They ask because they're curious. Indulge them a little, then turn the tables on them and ask something about them. Eventually they'll stop asking those kinds of questions. Then, when you get annoyed (because you will), come vent here, to other people who understand. Rant and rave about it, let it all out - here, and to your SO. Because your SO is getting those same questions. Just don't rant about it to anyone else, it does not ever end well.
To sum up our relationship, for those who don't know: Nix & I started dating in the spring semester of our last year at university, that was January 2011. We were CD until we graduated in May, and I went home to WI and he stayed in IN. I moved to GA in June for my new job, and he stayed in IN until the end of August. In December work asked me to move to TX at the beginning of January. So I did. He stayed in GA. In July, he moved home to IN while I found out I would be moving to VA. I didn't end up moving until August 2012, but I moved. In Oct 2012 he came to VA to visit for a few days, and we drove back to IN to visit there a few days. He proposed that weekend.
I flew back to VA, and we started wedding planning. In June 2013 I was told I'd be moving to MD at the completion of the VA project, which would be early September. So in September I moved here to MD. Early October he moved to MD, and then we got married Oct 26, back in IN!So to break it down, we were CD for 9 months total of our relationship prior to marriage. LD for a total of 26 months before our wedding day. We've been married for just over a month now, and life has been pretty good to us so far. It's presented some challenges, but honestly, I think we're still getting used to the idea that I'm not leaving, and neither is he. When we went on our honeymoon, it was VERY weird because for the first time ever, he didn't drop me off and drive away at the airport. And now this weekend we will be flying together to visit his family for the weekend. Once again, I imagine it will be weird. Going to the airport together, and coming back together.
If I could tell anyone in a LDR one piece of advice, it's this: have patience. I struggled with patience - I still do. Have patience with yourself, with your SO, with your families, friends, neighbors, etc. Because you will always get "those" questions from people - those who know you and those who don't. "How do you manage?" "Isn't it hard?" "When will you see each other again?" That last one is the worst, especially when the answer is "We're not sure." They ask because they're curious. Indulge them a little, then turn the tables on them and ask something about them. Eventually they'll stop asking those kinds of questions. Then, when you get annoyed (because you will), come vent here, to other people who understand. Rant and rave about it, let it all out - here, and to your SO. Because your SO is getting those same questions. Just don't rant about it to anyone else, it does not ever end well.
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