He thinks that I'm a psycho :'(

[Zap96]

I feel like you would really be better off just cutting ties with him. The entire dynamic between you two is toxic, and it's not worth trying to salvage. There will be someone out there with whom you can be completely honest, and from there you'll learn to love each other without having to try to prove anything to one another.
The only person who knows what your behavior and personality are really like, in this situation, is you. You know you're not lying to him and you know that you're not actually as insecure as you might be coming off, but since everything started out based on lies, as much as he may say he wasn't mad about that, there's always going to be an inkling of doubt. Trying to prove to him that you're not a "psycho" turns into a train wreck, because it runs the risk of coming off as very clingy and counterproductive. 'Cause then you get self-conscious, which makes you defensive, and then you start portraying yourself in a light that isn't true to who you are, which drives the wedge deeper between you two. I'm sure he has brought out the best, but as it stands right now, he's only bringing out the worst in you.
So consider cutting ties with him. It doesn't have to be a forever thing, but I feel like you both need a couple months apart from each other in order to calm down. It'll suck, but you need to take a step back, gather yourself, and build up better self confidence so that you can express yourself as you really are instead of who you thought he wanted you to be.

Thank you for that, you actually made me realise this. He does bring the worst out of me in the most cases because he believes it, the truth is, he said we are like way too different and can't get along and I think it is because of the past which fucks up the present... and knows the whole story about me so I can't help it with him. I think all we need now is just some rest, good time rest for me to reflect and gain insight of this whole problem because yes there is a solution to that so I'm pretty sure wouldn't be forever the struggle.
He would eventually realise that, as I apart myself from him for the time being because too much talking and talking actually makes it worse than before. We both need to relax this off for a while. I should also stop saying the things that makes him think of me as a psycho.

[Harlequin]

I feel like you would really be better off just cutting ties with him. The entire dynamic between you two is toxic, and it's not worth trying to salvage. There will be someone out there with whom you can be completely honest, and from there you'll learn to love each other without having to try to prove anything to one another.
The only person who knows what your behavior and personality are really like, in this situation, is you. You know you're not lying to him and you know that you're not actually as insecure as you might be coming off, but since everything started out based on lies, as much as he may say he wasn't mad about that, there's always going to be an inkling of doubt. Trying to prove to him that you're not a "psycho" turns into a train wreck, because it runs the risk of coming off as very clingy and counterproductive. 'Cause then you get self-conscious, which makes you defensive, and then you start portraying yourself in a light that isn't true to who you are, which drives the wedge deeper between you two. I'm sure he has brought out the best, but as it stands right now, he's only bringing out the worst in you.
So consider cutting ties with him. It doesn't have to be a forever thing, but I feel like you both need a couple months apart from each other in order to calm down. It'll suck, but you need to take a step back, gather yourself, and build up better self confidence so that you can express yourself as you really are instead of who you thought he wanted you to be.

[Zap96]

He was hurt you lied to him, he simply didn't get over it. If you start your next relationship with the truth you will most likely have a very different experience.

He would show he's careless just so he could not show emotion. Simply by that he uses anger instead. I believe because I started clear again and promised myself no lies he would sometime refuse to see it as he thinks I'm crazy... It's my fault on first place for lying if I simply didn't, things wouldn't of complicate so much.

[differentcountries]

He was hurt you lied to him, he simply didn't get over it. If you start your next relationship with the truth you will most likely have a very different experience.

[Zap96]

Pretending to be someone you are not sounds a bit immature to me. Also, if you love someone, you are just going to be honest. Loving someone means accepting them the way they are.

I did, that was half year ago. I love him as he is. He has shown me his best side and worst side whatsoever. All I want is him to get this idea out of his head that I'm crazy...
Used to be a shallow but when I met him it doesn't even matter to me anymore. I fell for his personality. He has charms but his personality what captured me.

[Sanja]

Pretending to be someone you are not sounds a bit immature to me. Also, if you love someone, you are just going to be honest. Loving someone means accepting them the way they are.

[Zap96]

I think that it is a bit odd that you went for a relationship where you were not honest to start with and were not the person you are.

Then when you came clean with him, he saw that you can 'easily' be two different people and not able to fully trust whether you are telling the truth or not in any given situation - starts off any relationship on difficult footing.

Whether you love him or have just projected feelings for him, he obviously does not return them anymore - the insults are not made in a joking way by the way you type them, and so they are probably meant as said; you did hurt him after all, and have blown it with him as a result.

I'd say cut ties with him, stop messaging him and move on learning from this.

True but while back he said I will continue to talk to you but no more lies as I promised him that and it's true. He said it was silly for you to pretend but I am not mad at you. I'd need some time to adapt to it as he was very sweet to me all this time. But the problem is that we were mostly arguing about bullshit and recently this month I really messaged him more often than I should. So it got him mad to this point that doesn't want to talk.
All I'm saying is that he portrayed that bad image of me and I'm really not that evil or bad as he thinks I am. He even said that a very luck guy would have me if I get married someday.
The question is not why is it but how can I prove him wrong.
He thinks I'm just a weirdo or something but I am not. That's the major reason he wouldn't talk.

[p_b82]

I think that it is a bit odd that you went for a relationship where you were not honest to start with and were not the person you are.

Then when you came clean with him, he saw that you can 'easily' be two different people and not able to fully trust whether you are telling the truth or not in any given situation - starts off any relationship on difficult footing.

Whether you love him or have just projected feelings for him, he obviously does not return them anymore - the insults are not made in a joking way by the way you type them, and so they are probably meant as said; you did hurt him after all, and have blown it with him as a result.

I'd say cut ties with him, stop messaging him and move on learning from this.

[Zap96]

You probably love the idea of being with someone/being in love, you might be infatuated, but this is not real love.
Love isn't selfish, love doesn't play games, love doesn't try to hurt the other person. (I don't mean you here, but regards what I've read about your SO)
Some times the craving to have some one can be so great that people end up settling for someone who doesn't make them happy and who isn't a good match, just because they are so afraid to be alone.
(I speak from experience, I'm not judging you).

Listen since the beginning we met wasn't serious, I never even expected it to come to this. At first I didn't believe it was serious. I've been with guys before but this one turned out to be so different from the rest and I fell for him for the first time. But because there wasn't good chances to meet didn't happen. So we both lost hopes. He said before I prefer to meet you over my friends. So make sure you don't fuck up this time. But it didn't happen because of not sufficient money... So it turns out I have to wait but I can't anymore. He distance himself from me and I leave him alone.
So because we couldn't meet all of the plans we had for each other didn't came true. That's all . I'm not forcing it. I don't care being alone to be honest. What is meant to be it will happen.
He said he wanted to love me but I hurt him and he doesn't want that anymore.
It's just... Idk

Double post.

But I love him...

You probably love the idea of being with someone/being in love, you might be infatuated, but this is not real love.
Love isn't selfish, love doesn't play games, love doesn't try to hurt the other person. (I don't mean you here, but regards what I've read about your SO)
Some times the craving to have some one can be so great that people end up settling for someone who doesn't make them happy and who isn't a good match, just because they are so afraid to be alone.
(I speak from experience, I'm not judging you).

[R&R]

But I love him...

Honestly, it sounds much more like an unhealthy obsession and not love.

[Zap96]

I agree with the above posters. Nothing good can come from this relationship. I wouldn't bother. Tell him goodbye and work on your own issues, so that when Mr as Right as can be comes along you will ready for a relationship.

But I love him...

I agree with the above posters. Nothing good can come from this relationship. I wouldn't bother. Tell him goodbye and work on your own issues, so that when Mr as Right as can be comes along you will ready for a relationship.

[differentcountries]

Since its difficult from distance I just want to keep in touch and just have a friendship with him.

That sounds like a bad idea. You seem to only stress each other.