What to do

[merlinkitty]

My apologies ^^ I went ahead and assumed you were suggesting she take off despite her mother's obvious misgivings. Either way taking off while still young and in need of parental support should probably be your last resort.

Loves with hugs!

<3 lol it's okay...I figured as much I'm pretty conservative in my advice giving, well I'd never tell someone to take off after someone when the repercussions include parents being ticked and disliking the SO lol

[NukilikUlva]

Are there any repercussions at home for you taking off to him?

My apologies ^^ I went ahead and assumed you were suggesting she take off despite her mother's obvious misgivings. Either way taking off while still young and in need of parental support should probably be your last resort.

Loves with hugs!

[whatruckus]

Where on earth do you see me saying that? Read again what I asked.

I was wondering the same thing and even re-read the posts.

[merlinkitty]

merlinkitty mentioned taking off to go visit and to be honest I would just say don't do that.

Where on earth do you see me saying that? Read again what I asked.

[NukilikUlva]

merlinkitty mentioned taking off to go visit and to be honest I would just say don't do that. Get your parents in contact with his. Offer your mom to go as well so she can meet his family and him. This is how I got my mom to let me meet my gf. I strongly feel "taking off" is a bad idea because you're going to hurt your mother's trust, and you really need her on your side.

[Mickeyy]

How old is your SO? Have you skyped with him/talked on the phone/video chatted?

He's 20. Yes we facetime/talk on the phone/text everday

[Mickeyy]

Are you going to him or is he coming to you?

im going to him

[Mickeyy]

Who's going where? That changes a few options.

Im going to him

[Mickeyy]

Have you considered asking your mother to go with you? I'm not sure how close you are with your mom but this may give you two some good time together plus ease her mind a bit by allowing her to be there herself.

When my oldest met her on again/off again SO for the first time, she was 18. We picked him up at the airport together and we all stayed together. They had some time to themselves to go ice skating and the mall. They also had to to go to dinner with her dad and step mom. Their next visit she flew to him in Canada and I let her go by herself because I had met him and I have full trust in him to be there and take care of her when she visits.

I've mentioned it to her but she wants him to come to me first but that cant happen because of his work schedule.

[Mickeyy]

Are there any repercussions at home for you taking off to him?

No my mom would just be really upset. But if I do just take off I dont want her to think it was all his idea and not like him

[R&R]

Have you considered asking your mother to go with you? I'm not sure how close you are with your mom but this may give you two some good time together plus ease her mind a bit by allowing her to be there herself.

When my oldest met her on again/off again SO for the first time, she was 18. We picked him up at the airport together and we all stayed together. They had some time to themselves to go ice skating and the mall. They also had to to go to dinner with her dad and step mom. Their next visit she flew to him in Canada and I let her go by herself because I had met him and I have full trust in him to be there and take care of her when she visits.

[merlinkitty]

Are there any repercussions at home for you taking off to him?

[Mickeyy]

He's 20. Yes we facetime often. talk on the phone/text everday all day

[Mickeyy]

Im going to him

[Honour]

See, my SO isn't approved of by my mum, but she's trying to get her head around it. Short of your SO visiting you, you could have your mum chat to him, so she can say there's nothing to worry about. Can't guarantee it will work, but 9 times out of 10, it helps family and friends calm right down.