My SO still does not let me know his schedule though I planned 3 weeks visit. To arrange 3 weeks leave was very very hard to negotiate in my working place. He said several times that he will let me know if he knows his schedule. I also asked his outlook of the time of "decision schedule", but still he is quiet.
My flight will be next week and I have to consider to change my schedule or to make my leave shorter. Other friends of mine in his country who don't know him are waiting for me and it is a hope.
I have decided to plan my own schedule without him. I don't know why I bought my flight tickets. But nobody can not know the future. Once I thought to cancel the tickets but I am sure I will become more depressive when I spend time at home. It might be better good friends of mine in his country will encourage me.
I have been disappointed him. I let friends of mine in his country wait until my SO let me his schedule, and he must know it. But he is quiet. He said he can not make me stay for the whole 3 weeks as his girl friend will sometimes visit him. <<So, you say I should sleep on the street?>> I guess he is confirming a schedule of his girl friend and he can not decide by himself.
First I was irritated and then my feeling becomes an anger and a disappointment. His behavior indirectly gives an influence to a schedule of friends of mine. He know it but he is quiet. It is not a good manner and he is sneaky as an adult. I feel empty.
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And in case I misunderstood this and you only meant he has a female friend who will come over every now and then, then I wonder why on earth you as his girlfriend can't stay. Either way he is a jackass. I don't want to make you feel bad or anything, but you deserve better than this!
Yes, now he has girlfriend and I have realized he becomes to think her with higher priority than me. He has been sometimes very sweet and sometimes very simple like the tide and I have felt strange. I guess he dates with her and he becomes closer to her when he comes back to his home town from his working place, and perhaps he becomes closer to me again when his relationship with her is getting worse. I can not visit him every weekend and even I could do so, I can not manage his life. So it is not a problem of the distance but a problem of the morality.
Now it is opened we are (at least) three. Of course it hurts me enough and makes me disappointed enough. You are right, he is immature.
As Dauntedpoet mentioned, it is a good sign for me I have an anger even it is not strong. Because I need such feeling when I move on. I am not prepared to do so immediately, but I am surviving through a confusion with a warm support of my good friends in the real life and here.
Dear Dauntedpoet, Thank you for your warm comments and a private message. I have sent a message to you.