OOOOkay, sometimes I get bitchy. I PMS and I get in bad moods and sometimes I really hate life. It happens. Not very often and usually not for very long, but still I can get on a war path and the littlest things can turn into a crying/anger mess.
My SO. Bless his heart, he has no idea what to do with me when I get like that. He would rather back away slowly until he gets a safe enough distance to run away. Jerk.
It's not like I need to know that I'm being irrational. I already KNOW that. I just can't get out of my funk sometimes and the man that I love would rather turn heel and run. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is not very productive. In fact, it makes me feel rather rejected.
How do I tell my boyfriend that he's not supposed to just hang up the phone when I'm upset? How do I get him to see that he's supposed to help me out of the crazy mood I'm in and ya know, make me happy??? Isn't that what bfs are there for? It's not like I can talk to him everyday, just on the weekend, and if he doesn't want to talk because I'm unhappy, that's a another week before I have a chance to talk to him again.
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As far as your SO running away from you, just bring it up to him. Say "you know sometimes I get crazy, right? Well it's not anything I can control and I know you might help me cheer up if you can try to talk to me during those crazy times." I think when bringing up a touchy issue it's always best to throw in a couple compliments so they feel good about themselves and feel like they are helping. Say you love hearing his voice, and even if HE can't tell you're calming down, it really does help.
Good luck!
One thing I am quickly learning with The Boy and men in general....is that they don't want to be your everything, that's a tall order for men. They really don't think the way we do. I mentioned on someone else's blog, it works better for me to ask him "Hey can you give me 15 (or 20 or 30) mins for me to bitch and moan, maybe offer some pep talk?" The Boy is much more receptive...I get my needs met and he feels like he helps without feeling overwhelmed.
You can try that tactic, but don't do it every time you talk or too often or he's going to think all you do is complain and whine. It really helps to have a few girlfriends to bounce stuff off or to come here and vent. That's why I blog so much.
I really like BabyGund's suggestion. Put a time limit on your venting and then talk about something pleasant . I do that with my boy a lot. I give him the barest details, get his feedback and drop it. I have girlfriends and LFAD to vent to.