Instead of writing in my thread in the forums I am just going to take my thoughts here.

So yeah, it's pretty much safe to say we're done. I have tried to be respectful and sympathetic toward any obstacles his AS may present in our relationship, but he is refusing to acknowledge some very basics found in relationships. On top of that he seems to only focus in on my flaws and make everything look like it's my fault, and then when he doesn't have a real defense for his own flaws and faults he finds a way to spin it around to blame me still.

Last night I made no effort to initiate conversation but he still came around. At some point he asked me what my best friend thought of all of this (she is very protective of me). I asked her to give me some words to forward to him and she chose the guilt tripping route - he didn't read into it. "It's not like I cheated on you," he told me, "And I don't have any plans on jumping into a relationship anytime soon."

"So you do no longer consider us together?" I asked, because for a week he's been pulling this limbo line on me, "Because all week you've been saying limbo all week." He said 'yes to the limbo part'. Again I was confused. Because what he said about my friends comment made it definitely sound like a break up. So I told him to stop saying limbo, does he consider us broken up or not? The way I originally viewed it was that we're either not broken up but not where we want to be, or we're broken up with the prospect of maybe getting back together. He said the former was spot on.

I'm still not going to hold my breath, the way he's been treating me is unfair. I shouldn't have to prove anything to him or earn his respect. He's told me it's unfair of me to use my experiences of the past on him yet he said he isn't going to buy the whole 'I can change' promise because he's seen it before and it doesn't work that easily. Not that I promised I could change, I just told him I recently came to terms with what could have been a contributor to my end of the disagreements which was mental health problems caused by other conditions. I guess he can't be understanding of that despite his own conditions and disorders.

But surprisingly later on in the night he asked me to tell him what I honestly thought of him at this point and I was honest. He is being melodramatic, he has serious communication issues, and his judgment of me is always in extremes which leads to him misinterpreting and misunderstanding me.

And of course he couldn't ask me to give him my opinion of him without dishing something out at me.

"Well to be honest you have moments where you seem to invest so much energy into things so minor then its like you realize how redundant it all is and change your mentality towards it and commit to the new feelings like the original mentality didn't exist because you see how it effects me."

It's called gaining some perspective! Understanding! It's called not being a stubborn ass! I get emotional at times so I will at times sweat the small stuff! But then I clear my head and realize how irrational I was being! I'm not some frickin' yes man, when I change my stance on something it's because I realize maybe I'm in the wrong. He seriously sees that as a character flaw in me. My mind is blown with that statement. Really.