I am a gamer too... so it's not like I'm not speaking from experience. I have hundreds of games. I've played more MMOs than I can name. My icon is my custom Battleblock Theatre character's head. It's what brought my boyfriend and I together.

And as you said there are different level of gamers. I've had games seriously interfere with a few past relationships and I showed my concern so soon because of my past experiences. It's not like I'm like "Oh no he plays games. This can't do! Get a life, loser!" It's what brought us together and it's something we do together. Like I said I speak from experience, almost all of the guys I've dated have been gamers and half of those relationships have had gaming seriously interfere with the relationship. One ex not only lost me but he lost his best friend (and his best friend was an avid gamer who had for years been his gaming buddy). One ex's gaming would lead to dates being canceled or delayed by hours because he'd get so caught up in LoL and other MOBA games. And like I mentioned, one ex wanted to cut off our main form of contact because he felt that by removing it, his PC and processor would be less stressed and his games would lag less.

I just wanted to share my concerns with him before it could even became an issue so he knows what I'd ideally like during these times (I'm not too keen on daily communication dying down to just greetings and a few word for over a week at a time). I didn't really come here asking for advice, hence why it's a blog entry and not a post on the forum. I just needed to vent because I am sensitive to the patterns in people's behaviors and for over a week now it's definitely been off. I notice gamers easily get caught up in the competitive multiplayer games more than anything and for some it can become compulsive and I think that was the issue with my exes. And I think I was worried it might end up being the case with him since that's essentially what this game is. In my past relationships it wasn't an immediate thing either. Two of them I had been with for over a year before the issues began.

Last night I did manage to get a call with him. It wasn't long though because some friends got online and wanted him to play the game (CS:GO) with them. Didn't hear from him for the rest of the night until 2am when he was off and heading to bed. I'm fine for now but honestly if it gets to being over a month and the game is taking up all of my time and chances to spend time with him and I'm still getting my maybe's when I try to plan something with him, then I may seriously have an issue.

I'm sorry if I came on strong. At this point let the game run its course. Once it's to that point of, "OK this isn't dying down" I would definitely make more of a fuss about it. It won't kill him to put the game away for a night and spend time with you. Just like he would save a night as date night if u were CD rather then spending every night with his friends.

My bf is a ADHD gamer. He bounces from one game to the next. Its kind of irritating BC we can't play together BC he loses interest in a week. But my biggest pet peeve is, he will buy a game, play it for two weeks and never pick it up again. So he's spending $60 to play a game for two weeks....without beating it. So...ur not alone in the gaming annoyances lol.

It's okay, I just didn't want you guys to think I was pretty much feeling like I didn't want him to game at all. He's usually a bit like your boyfriend. He'll play a game for an hour or two here, another for an hour or two there. But he does usually rotate between games until he finishes them. We've been playing FFXIV together but we haven't touched it since he got CS:GO. He was playing Pillars of Eternity, and I don't think he's touched that either. He also plays DayZ and Arma III and he hasn't touched those. It's only been CS:GO. Like I said it could be a phase and it may die down. Chances are it will but I think it's fair of me to request that he set some time aside for me during it.

I experience anxiety and it makes me sensitive to the changes in people's behavior and patterns. I can even read into how people type and I can tell when something is off by their word choices, punctuation, fluctuation or lack of emotes, etc. I understand at times this doesn't mean anything but I will notice when things change in a person. Since last night I've been worrying that my talk with him perhaps has left him feeling pressured or obligated to do stuff he doesn't. I have a history of people misunderstanding my intention in what I say and do. In fact my Myer Briggs personality type is said to be one of the most misunderstood personality types and it doesn't help that it's the rarest of them all. I am not ever directly passive aggressive to someone and I don't insinuate stuff but often my SO's in the past would assume I was. So for instance when I was explaining to him to be aware that me addressing an issue with him may be a result of my anxiety. And he responded with "I'm sorry I cause you so much anxiety." And it's like... that's definitely not what I meant!

I just came to him and told him that it felt like for over a week now we hadn't spent much time together and I wanted to take the time to let him know that I really value and appreciate the time that we make for each other, whether it's playing a game together or calling on Skype, because I feel it makes up for the lack of physical contact that we have while we're long distance, and I hope he feels the same. And I just mentioned that I noticed little pattern changes, not necessarily saying that I wanted them back, but if they were any indication of something I'd have liked to address it.

And I'm just worried I came off as demanding. He called me Thursday night, albeit it was short but I'm not complaining. And we hung out in a Skype call last night since we'd been planning on watching Daredevil together on Netflix when it started. He played CS:GO while we chatted, we watched Daredevil, and then he played more CS:GO while we hung out on Skype some more. I see he acknowledged what I said but I also fear he felt I was being demanding. I just don't want him to develop a grudge or feel like he isn't being good enough for me.

Edit: Tried to talk to him about it this morning, just briefly to clarify that I wasn't demanding anything of him and I wanted him to know he still makes me happy. I apologized, he said it was okay. I asked if I ended up making him feel any sort of negativity, and he said it just left him feeling a bit sad afterward. I apologized again. I haven't gotten too much out of him because he's playing you know what. I'm not going to pester him. I just wanted to apologize to him.