Just worked two double shifts of waitressing...made 300...woot woot..gas and electric will be paid in full and I can see a HUGE cart of groceries in my near future.
I am sad.
I really had a rough week since I got home. I miss my love. I MISS HIM.
He goes about his day to day life...and I don't see him reacting the same way...I feel like it's more of a "well the house will sell eventually"...where with me...I am frustrated as hell.
DO I tell him? Yup.
He tells me I need to believe. That I need to be optimistic...that crying will do no good.
My heart aches.
My life is on pause.
And if one were to know me...they know that I run when things get too tough...
These feelings...these low and miserable feelings...this hopelessness in the fact that his house will never sell is really really getting the best of me.
People say...oh the house will sell.
Really? Been on the market 6 months...probably 20 showings.
Not one offer?
Odds of selling?
Slim.
We talked of him moving before the house sells.
Well I talked.
He said under no circumstance will that happen. He doesn't want to start out our new life "in the hole"...
Seriously...I am a mess. I held it together while I worked my shifts..and no one knows that slowly I am losing faith.
I am so afraid I will lose the one man the only man I have ever truly loved.
Because I am losing faith.
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Btw isn't it the best feeling to be able to pay your bills and buy whatever you want from the shop without having to worry if you have enough money in your wallet!??
It must be hard when you're all over the place and he acts like it's no biggie... But tbh maybe he's just as hopeless as you are but is being strong for you and not showing how hard it is for him?
I've watched a MILLION shows about house selling and how to improve the odds to sell... It's usually all about little things and how you present the house.
With just a few hundred he could do little things here and there that spices up the house and makes the overall picture a bit more neat... it's simple things really and I think you/he should try a few !
Start with the furniture: place them so that the rooms look more spacious and open. Clear out ALL your personal items (photos of your family etc) so that the possible buyers can imagine their own stuff in there.
Curtains: make sure the curtains match the walls/sofa/pillows, it makes everything look more compatible. Hang a few paintings on the wall to bring colour in the rooms but don't over do it!
Bathroom: Again, clear out the toothbrushes, hair combs, shavers, shaving creams, tooth paste, everything personal, clean the toilet properly and hang some pretty towels and get a matt that matches them. Use a nice odour to make it smell good, clean and fresh.
Bedroom(s): Hide all the clothes and personal stuff (again, I know
Kitchen: Clean the kitchen PROPERLY! Get rid off all the stains on the stove, clean the fridge, all the counters and the sink. Hide all the extra junk from the tables and get some flowers or a table ornament in the dining table. A nice table cloth that matches the colours of the kitchen is preferable.
Ok, I think those are the main ones... Also if he can afford it, paint the rooms or get new wallpaper, that makes everything look new and poshy! Don't forget to clean the yard as well, the yard and the front door are the first things the buyers will see so those places creating a good first impression os more than important!
I hope this helps a little, I know it's hard to stay positive when the months go buy BUT THE HOUSE WILL SELL! In the meanwhile try to do your best at making that dream come true and fix the house little by little, do anything you can to help him. I'm sure his house could benefit from a woman's touch
Don't give up, you're very close and you will not lose him! He loves you and you love him and after this is all over you're gonna be smiling and thinking what a big mistake it would've been if you had let him go over this. BIG HUGS LUCE!!!! ♥
I really get the feeling from reading this that you and I are more alike than either of us could imagine. Don't run. Don't do it okay? You've already made it this far and it's been hard the whole time. In your other post where you called him and woke him up because you needed him you proved that you have the support to make it through this. Don't. Run.
Smile. Smile and know that all of this is happening in God's time and unfortunately God's time can sometimes seem a heck of a lot slower than what is fair but it will be worth it. Promise.
*smooch!*