This is my rant. My words. My feelings. If you feel the need to be rude or use this time to give hard love....just hit the back button. It's NOT what I need right now.
I don't belong anywhere.
My job is filled with young kids in college or fresh out of college. I am the older lady everyone calls Mama who has been with the company 12 years.
My friends are all married and have their SO by their side and they don’t have to share 50/50 custody. I didn’t have my children to have them half their life. Hell I didn’t have kids to leave them in daycare, I gave up my career so I could be home with them.
Here in LFAD land. It seems the same way. Everyone is young. First love. The talk of how they are marrying and will never divorce. That they will be together forever and they won’t have kids with someone unless they are truly committed to forever with the love of their life. They won’t give up on marriage. That divorce is for the weak. An easy way out. The whole virginity post really sparked something inside me and it has been a flame burning for awhile. Talk of how we are only meant to love one person, our soulmate. How sleeping around is so bad.
Good God. I could go on and on. I have been married twice. I didn’t give up on anything without fighting like hell. I don’t throw my heart around lightly. My kids are my world. I have three beautiful children.
I got a couple of PM’s recently reminding me to be thankful I don’t have to worry about immigration. That it will be so easy for me to close the distance and I need to focus on that.
Hmmmmm. Every situation is different. I think some people truly don’t think before they write something. And it is hurtful.
Once a cheat always a cheat.This topic is done and overdone on the boards.
And I say the same thing…
I cheated. Am I proud of it? Oh hell no. Did I make excuses for it for years? I did. I was sick with anorexia and blamed that. I blamed my ex for so much when I needed to turn the finger around at myself. I was unhappy with me when in turn that was the deep rooted problem.
Years later after countless therapists I have healed. After 16 years with him I left. It was hell and some days are still really hard. Because you see I can’t just cut him out of my life. He is the father of my children. And a wonderful Daddy. But he and I are volatile together. We fought constantly and truly never fell in love.
Would I cheat again because I cheated before? Oh HELL no.
I learned so much about me. I worked on me. I changed ME. I had to. I promised myself I wouldn’t be in a relationship again unless I knew this was the one. I didn’t want my kids to get to know someone. That’s why initially it was great to have a LDR….He wasn’t in my town..and my ex didn’t know about him and harass me at first.
A year later I am so in love and so happy.
I hate when people make assumptions and use the word “majority.” Majority DO cheat again? How do you know this? Have you lived their life? Have you walked in their shoes? If anyone is on my facebook in my "about me" I have written something about how there is always two sides to every story. Most are so blindsided by lies they would rather only see the one side.
I am just feeling blah.
Maybe I just should shut up...
I don't belong anywhere.
My job is filled with young kids in college or fresh out of college. I am the older lady everyone calls Mama who has been with the company 12 years.
My friends are all married and have their SO by their side and they don’t have to share 50/50 custody. I didn’t have my children to have them half their life. Hell I didn’t have kids to leave them in daycare, I gave up my career so I could be home with them.
Here in LFAD land. It seems the same way. Everyone is young. First love. The talk of how they are marrying and will never divorce. That they will be together forever and they won’t have kids with someone unless they are truly committed to forever with the love of their life. They won’t give up on marriage. That divorce is for the weak. An easy way out. The whole virginity post really sparked something inside me and it has been a flame burning for awhile. Talk of how we are only meant to love one person, our soulmate. How sleeping around is so bad.
Good God. I could go on and on. I have been married twice. I didn’t give up on anything without fighting like hell. I don’t throw my heart around lightly. My kids are my world. I have three beautiful children.
I got a couple of PM’s recently reminding me to be thankful I don’t have to worry about immigration. That it will be so easy for me to close the distance and I need to focus on that.
Hmmmmm. Every situation is different. I think some people truly don’t think before they write something. And it is hurtful.
Once a cheat always a cheat.This topic is done and overdone on the boards.
And I say the same thing…
I cheated. Am I proud of it? Oh hell no. Did I make excuses for it for years? I did. I was sick with anorexia and blamed that. I blamed my ex for so much when I needed to turn the finger around at myself. I was unhappy with me when in turn that was the deep rooted problem.
Years later after countless therapists I have healed. After 16 years with him I left. It was hell and some days are still really hard. Because you see I can’t just cut him out of my life. He is the father of my children. And a wonderful Daddy. But he and I are volatile together. We fought constantly and truly never fell in love.
Would I cheat again because I cheated before? Oh HELL no.
I learned so much about me. I worked on me. I changed ME. I had to. I promised myself I wouldn’t be in a relationship again unless I knew this was the one. I didn’t want my kids to get to know someone. That’s why initially it was great to have a LDR….He wasn’t in my town..and my ex didn’t know about him and harass me at first.
A year later I am so in love and so happy.
I hate when people make assumptions and use the word “majority.” Majority DO cheat again? How do you know this? Have you lived their life? Have you walked in their shoes? If anyone is on my facebook in my "about me" I have written something about how there is always two sides to every story. Most are so blindsided by lies they would rather only see the one side.
I am just feeling blah.
Maybe I just should shut up...
I guess in other words, i look up to and admire you, and I only know what little you put on here.
When I post, I hope you answer, to see what you have to say. I am so sorry that people have to treat you the way they do. It also bugs me so bad when people talk about divorced people like we are lazy, or just give up on love. I fought hard for my marriage..and it didn't get me anywhere...my ex is now in prison, i dont have to worry about him with my kids...but now I have to step up and be dad and mom, and pull their lifes together. I didn't marry to get a divorce, I was in the mentality that it would be forever. Life isn't always how we plan it. I would not be in the position i am in, if i could of planned it out, as im sure most people wouldn't.
I am just rambling now, but you aren't alone in your thinking..and you have people who support you here..and you have people who look forward to your posts/comments.