Does anyone have goal deadlines? For me I want to be a young mom. My parents are in there 40's and im 19. My dad can still keep up with my littlest brother and run and do things. And I always wanted that. So I had the dream of having all my kids by the time im 25. That means I have to be married in my early twenties because I would like to be married a year at least before having kids. So that means If i were to do my dream of getting married and having a family before then, I only have 5 years to do all this! We still havent closed the distance, and to do that and then to plan to get married, will take a good 2 years im guessing. Maybe more. And I don't want to feel like im rushing him, or rushing me. lol so guess new plan is to go with the flow. Still thats always been my dream. I even talked to my nana and when I told her I want to have kids by then she's all oh thats 5 years thats a good time, lol so aparently she won't be surprised if I get married within a few years. Still I do have tiny fears. (I blame tv for putting thoughts in my head lol) We are each others first, and im so happy I have him, but I hope he never feels like he's missing out.. Like since im the only one he's been with I hope when he's in his 30's he doesn't have a mid life crisis about that and want more. We've talked about this before and he says he's happy with only me, and I know he is. I just want everything with him, and he does to i just want it soon and i don't want him to later feel like things were rushed and he didn't get to experiance everything. Because we got together at 16 and then with a LDR and working to meet working to close the distance and then starting a life together its all fast and exciting, don't want later when were settled down for him to mhmm want more or want more excitment again. Lol okay I know im worrying about nothing, cause h loves me, but sometimes these kind of thoughts pop into my head.
Just thinking about him and how good he is to me. Like recently, today he left me a message and told me im beautiful, and its not that he doesn't compliment me, just it makes me feel special, he said it again too last time we were on webam and i was getting ready for a interview. Idk lol Idk how to respond to that so usually i don't lol but thinking about it, he makes me feel good. He makes me feel special and loved. I really found someone truly amazing who gives me every thing i want and need. And he makes me want to be a better person for him, I want to give him everything he needs, and to make him feel more loved than any man could ever feel. I love these feelings, and I love giving them to him. I miss him so much.
But has anyone else done this? Planned how they want there future to go and set deadlines and time lines?
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I have deadlines. I never cared about marriage, but I want to have popped out my youngest child before I'm 25 - which wont happen as my birthday is may, I'm 24 now and my SO is in another country. It makes me a bit sad, but sometimes that's just how it is.
On the missing out - he doesn't have to. Sexual experimentation doesn't end at commitment, it just means you do those things together. You don't need to shop around if you know you have the best product already
My SO is also my first boyfriend but I'm thankful I didn't have to go through too much to find him. My SO on the otherhand dated a few girls in the past but I'm really the first serious relationship he's had, and the longest one, and he makes me feel so special. Though neither of us are really good at accepting compliments haha.
And yes I completly understand what you are going through.Only mine is, turn 18, meet him for the first time. While I'm there take classes to become dutch so I can live there. Once that is done then move to Eurupe and work for a while so my SO and I can buy a lovely house together, once we have a house he said that he wants me to right away enrole into a college. Then from there Im going to let everything fall into place, I dont know when I will be married. I dont know when we plan on to get engaged. All I know is that maybe 4 or 5 years from now We will be having our first baby. But the engagment and wedding stuff he is hiding from me. Lol he wants to get married to me but he want the proposal to completly get me off gaurd, So he wont even tell me how many years from now it will be until we get engaged. lol
I completly understand. Its really scary and exciting all at the same time.