Big Decisions to make.......

kiara_silver started a blog post Big Decisions to make.......
April 13, 2012, 06:35 PM
Big Decisions to make.......

Before I share what im facing let me describe me for a moment. I am a socially awkward girl. I have trouble asserting myself and speaking up. Im shy and quiet. Since graduating and getting my license I then moved in with my grandma and have failed at meek attempts to get a job. As i write this I sound pathetic. I mostly stay to myself, if im not with family. I really haven't done a thing on my own before. And my parents approval and what they'll say is always on the back of my mind with big decisions. (Weather they see and realize this or not.)
Well as you know from my last blogs, I am going to Scotland on my own for 5 months. Me who has never travelled alone, is leaving the country!
For no other reason then just to be with my baby. Who is doing everything for me and us.

But now! I have the oppertunity to go to Culinary school there. His parents just called today, and said they are willing to pay half! Do you know how exspensive culinary is? And Nathan said he would pitch in a part so I would have to just pay the other half. And he says if I applied for the student visa it means I could work for about 10 hours a week, and he could get me a job easily. So wow culinary school and a whole year together!!! Sounds amazing right?
But heres the catch, I only have a couple of weeks to decide, I have less than a month before I go. And I know my parents would kill me and be so against this. There still barely accepting me and nathan as a couple, and have had a hard trime with me leaving for 5 months soon. So a year? On top of this, it's his parents, there doing so much for me. Already taking me into there home letting me stay and live with them. Aparently don't mind taking me to Paris with them, and so to accept more and be okay with them helping me go to school? Is this wrong of me to consider?
I have a hard time sometimes accepting gifts from Nathan, and he's my bf, and yes there his parents but they haven't met me in person. Maybe cause my parents are so different im having a hard time seeing it from a different view? Idk. But this is all so much and so big and I have to think and decide soon. And ahh idk what to think or do.....
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  Lilly9886 commented
  
  April 14, 2012, 03:56 PM
  
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  I can feel with you... Checking that with my bf right now for when he moves here to study :P
  
  I'm sure everything will work out for you!
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  lucybelle commented
  
  April 14, 2012, 04:53 PM
  
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  Can you apply for a student visa in country? Even if you can, I have no doubt it'll be way harder to get stuff done. For example, to apply for residency here I had to have new copies of my birth certificate and a police record (which I needed to get fingerprinted for). Then both of those had to be authenticated by the Secretary of State and the Costa Rican consulate in Atlanta. I'm not saying it's impossible to do abroad, but it's a huge freaking mess. And there's definitely at least some things that have to be done in the USA before you leave (for me it was getting fingerprinted). Plus your parents will have to do a lot of errands for you, and if they're already not to keen on the idea I think that might be tricky.
  
  Just saying to look into it. Best luck.
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  Moon commented
  
  April 14, 2012, 07:48 PM
  
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  lucybelle's advice is really good on this, but I think she was giving you examples of what she ran into, not necessarily the problems you'll have, yours will be different, so expect the unexpected. Pay close attention to where she basically told you to do your own leg-work, it's very important that you understand the process and not have someone do it all for you, if you're mature enough to make this move then you need to do the steps yourself as much as possible to prepare.
  
  This is a very difficult choice, especially since it sounds like you've always been the "good kid", your parents most likely aren't used to you not taking their advice/direction, so prepare for extra resistance from them because of it. Personally, I'd wait. Do your 5 months and see how it goes, that school will still be there next year. It is an awesome opportunity though, your boyfriends parents must be very kind people, I'm really happy for you about that, it makes life so much easier! I know that right now a year feels like forever, but it's not, it'll go by fast and you'll have plenty of time to get your visa in order. Good luck in whichever you choose, I'm a little jealous of how excited you must be over it!
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