Curiousity kills the cat and causes the soul to lose its faith in humanity and its society.

Tonight I went to Barnes & Noble to browse around, basically just killing time. I'm trying to get back into reading and I like having a stack of books waiting to be read and with only two awaiting my attention I wanted to see what was new and what bargain books I could get. Perusing the bargain section I came across a book that actually made me giggle-snort a bit, "Why Black Men Love White Women." I figured it was some satirical piece and only thumbed through it for a minute, got tired of the author referring to black men and women as "brothas" and "sistahs" (really, why do urban people use those terms?) and put it down. But it got me thinking about the subject since the media's really been eating up these sorts of stories as of late (like I honestly keep up with the media) and decided to do some research when I came home, figuring I'd end up with some articles talking about it being taboo, 'forbidden fruit' and whatever else.

What I got instead was a heaping helping of ignorance and a main dish of ignorant-laden hate.

Look, I'm not ignorant to the dislike of interracial couples, I live in the South for God sake, there's more racism here than trees. I was already mildly aware that some black women view it as white women "taking their men", but some of the comments I read were insane.

I came across forum discussions, discussion boards clipped to the bottom of a news or blog article stating opinions and 'research', and I've gotta say I have a headache. There was even an online interview with the author of the aforementioned book that started this bout of curiousity and I gagged. He claimed black men seek white women because they are filled with self-hate, they hate their skin their race and heritage and so go after anything white. He bashed black men further (mind you, he's black too) by saying they are ALWAYS the source of a "sistah's" problems and that because black women do something about their problems, the men go after white women, who take it up the ass proverbially and do nothing. There were other comments made about New Orlean's Saints player Reggie Bush as well as Tiger Woods, but that was an aside.

In every discussion I came across, people argued about the ethics of this 'phenomenon.' One person said it literally nauseated them to see black and white people as a couple. Another accused white women of being the 'true gold diggers' saying they never dated anyone who made less than them and they only went after the 'rich brothas' or went after them purely for sex and to rub the noses of black women in the fact they had the man and these girls didn't. Wave after wave of hate, hit after hit of ignorance. I remember talking with my mom one night a couple months ago, telling her I was still sore over her initial reaction to my dating my SO. She said the reason why she acted the way she did was she knew the difficulties interracial couples have and was concerned for me. I don't call telling me "If God wanted us to date other races we'd all be one color" concern, but I can see her point right now.

So many people think they've got the answer as to why a black man goes after a white woman, and none of it's about actually loving the person for who they are and not their skin color. I mean geeze, if that had mattered to me at all I probably wouldn't be with the man I'm with. I didn't know he was black until a month before we began dating and I've known him since I was 14.

Maybe it's a moot point to be ranting about this, but I just can't get over it. It's like having strangers indirectly telling me the only reason my Hattie looked my way twice was because I have ivory skin and not because we have a plethora of things in common or make each other happy outside of the carnal direction of sex and lust. Given my history of defending my relationship tooth and nail, this is gnawing at me that I can't give these people a giant "fuck you".