Negative People vs. Criticism

ldrxoxo started a blog post Negative People vs. Criticism
March 17, 2014, 07:31 AM
Negative People vs. Criticism

You know what I can't stand? Negative people. I appreciated the detailed, thought-out responses from my post and those who do empathize with my situation, but when there are people who comment and have nothing positive to say, they can keep their comments to themselves. Writing and stories was OUR special thing. That's how he and I bonded. We met on Omegle and we both said how embarrassing it would be to tell people we met on Omegle so we would sometimes joke about making up silly stories in how we met. I appreciate the constructive criticism. What gets me are comments like, "He isn't interested and never will be" with no other thoughts. Who's to really say "he never will be?" Things don't work out for people because of thoughts like that, that they have. I will let him go for now because that's what I have to do.

This has been taking a toll on me and I told him how stressful it was that we hardly talk anymore and I can't keep having it weighing me down and I'm sick of crying myself to sleep every night remembering what we used to have when we first started talking. It was the most special kind of thing I could ever have with someone. It was everything a LDR should have been, with the attention given. Had he kept on like he was in the beginning for the first month and a half, we would have worked out. Then he started college again. Things were okay at first when he started college again and he would still give me the proper attention a LDR should have, but something changed: he met more girls nearby.
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  lucybelle commented
  
  March 17, 2014, 12:53 PM
  
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  I think you need to stop comparing your life with the lives of others. It's just going to continue making you miserable.
  
  And let the 19 y/o free. He's too young for all this.
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  ldrxoxo commented
  
  March 17, 2014, 02:12 PM
  
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  I didn't need this either yet he still did it to me. It's life. He knew I was into him a lot, what I was willing to do for him, and all the disappointments from my past and he used to be just as into me as I was into him. It's a shame he wants to be another disappointment. We got along so well because I thought he acted older than his age and at first he did but now his 19-years are showing. Trust and believe on top of the other bullshit I've been dealing with, I didn't need this either but it happened and I have to deal with it and he is going to as well. He's the one that made it this way. Had he been steadily talking to me like he used to when we first started talking, none of this would be happening right now we'd still be right where we were in the beginning. So he only has himself to blame. I did nothing here.
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  Alle1770 commented
  
  March 17, 2014, 03:17 PM
  
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  He's 19. Of course he's going to act mature and grown up when an older woman shows interest in him. It works for the first couple of weeks, but then maybe he realized he can't deal with the stress, pressure and responsibility of being in an LDR. Top it off with you writing a book about you guys after only knowing each other for a couple months - that would make anyone run away! Hell, I love writing and I'd love to write a book one day (actually started writing several) - I've been with my SO for almost 3 years and I have no interest in putting him out there at all, it wouldn't be fair to him.
  
  I know you probably think we're all a bunch of douchebags here, but honestly. You're getting the opinion of 10's of outsiders who can look at your situation for what it is without being involved in all the drama, and I can almost promise you that we're not in the wrong here. I know you're probably very in to him, but to me, it really does sound like he's a 19 year old boy who's panicking because he's in over his head in a situation he probably didn't think would get so serious.
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