It takes a little work but it is often possible to find a cheap, affordable or free therapist that can help. Don't cut them all of as expensive because of one person's therapist being pricy.

Therapists sometimes work, if you find the right match between yourself and the other. It is not neccesarily a matter of "listeing" to the therapist. I went to a therapist some years back and she gave me very concrete tasks to do. I had started to get a high level of anxiety due to being sick a long time, and my claustrophobia, which used to be mild, skyrocketed and she helped me by being concrete. I did not always agree with her, but I always respected her. Some may need therapy to get motivated to do the things they aleady know, as you mentioned. But they also may not know, and therefore need to learn. I was surprised when I learned, passed the age of 30, how scared I am of my father's anger sometimes. I was surprised, too, to learn that shame is the emotion holding me back. There is no way I could have been made aware of this had I just tried to heal myself. Though I have often healed myself, and it is very useful in combination with therapy.

If you want advice on how to find an affortable therapist, I am sure people can give you advice on that (I can not. I don't know how the health system works in your country). If you have to pay a lot, it may still be worth it. I payed a lot of money for my therapist at I time where I could not really afford it, I made it a priority and looking back I am glad I did. Since my therapis gave me tasks that I completed, I could manage with not going so often, since our sessions were still "working" in between sessions.

differentcountries, I appreciate your experiences with a therapist. Here where I am, the insurance isn't good. Currently I'm in transition of getting hired into a workplace but I think after I get permanently hired in, they might have benefits for full time permanent employees. I don't think they have anything for temporaries unfortunately.