I'm so tired of people essentially bashing other relationships on here. I know it's all because we're a family and are giving it straight and honest, but seriously??? We need to stop telling other people "you're not in a LDR because you're only x far away" and "I have to spend $$$$$$ to see my SO and you don't and..." It's incredibly frustrating for me to continue to see posts like this.
As I was reading a new thread on here all I saw were posts like "you need to be happy you're so close" and "that's not a LDR" and all this other really negative stuff. The poster was asking for advice, not judgement on their relationship. I know it's in human nature to judge. I know a lot of us (myself included) tend to type out our frustrations because we are so comfortable here and have made several (or many) good friends through LFAD. We turn to the boards to vent about our SOs and our families and life, but when someone, and a newb at that, comes in and members basically attack them because they're "not really in a LDR".... I can see why they don't come back.
I know, normally I'm all for bashing newbs - but only when they're being incredibly frustrating. Like creating another "how do I cope" or "what do I do when I'm waiting" thread. Seriously. Isn't there a sticky with those things yet? No? There should be.
Sorry, but starting posts with "I'm not trying to be rude" or "No offense" or something similar is fairly useless. Because..... often times (okay it's like, 98% of the time) what follows a statement like that IS rude or offensive. Look, I get it that you and your SO are farther apart than I am to my SO. I'm not asking for you to tell me "try looking at it from my perspective and my SO & I are 10,000 miles apart". If we're comparing how far apart we are, I wouldn't be "allowed" to say I'm in a LDR. Because I mean really. We both live in the same country. Heck, we're in the same time zone - AND I don't have to spend thousands to see him. I could, if I really wanted to, see him every single weekend. We are lucky, yes.
But in all seriousness, the only ones who get to say whether or not you're in a LDR are the two people IN THE RELATIONSHIP. Not me. Not you. Heck, not even the couple's parents or closest friends. Only. Them. No one else is in the relationship, after all.
Sorry I'm not sorry. I've just seen an influx of attacks like this recently and it's just finally gotten to me.
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Although it sucks, I am honestly grateful for the opportunity we are in to experience this. Especially as someone who has, generally speaking, gotten what she wants, this is making me take a step back and put my faith/trust in something that's beyond my control.
Also I wasn't implying anything about you. <3 I was adding on to your rant because your rant reminded me of the people who think they're superior being in a LDR.
The grass is always greener, right?