I can't help it and nobodies like to feel like one, but I really do right now, I know my SO's mum has passed last month and I'm really being there for her and trying to be supportive, giving her space, letting her do what she needs, but it's getting to me a bit how she won't sort of talk to me about how she's feeling, won't open up and just in general isn't really bothering with me, only a odd vague message or a call that lasts about 5minutes, and anytime I try to re-assure her I'm here for whatever she needs, it doesn't seem enough.
Anyway, I don't really know how to say, just wanted to get this off my chest, it's taking it's toll on me and I'm just trying to help. I really don't know what's going on half the time and am just worried she's keeping it all inside.
Countless times I've told her just tell me what you want, what you need, what I can do and what you want me to do, anything so long as it helps, I know grief is a strange thing and others deal differently, personally I'd want her to be talking to me and helping me, but she seems to be pushing me away instead, I'm trying to not bring any of this up with her, I don't need to add to her problems or stress, but it's not easy on this side either. Especially feeling so helpless.
I'm really starting to feel like a bad boyfriend here.
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I think you should give her space right now. She keeps pushing you away so stop trying to pull her closer. That never works for anyone. She'll feel even more cornered and push you away all the more.
She is grieving and what is there to talk about sometimes? What is she supposed to say or do? There is no fixed way how you should mourn. If she wants to talk, she'll talk but if she doesn't, just let it be.
With all due respect with regard to the loss of her mum, her behaviour towards you has always been a bit of a rollercoaster and becomes apparent again now. This isn't your fault here and you're not a bad boyfriend.