I don't think being in an LDR is that bad. (I know, I know, some people have it much "harder" than I do but some people have it "easier"...whatever, isn't that just how life is?)
I guess I should say...I don't think being in my LDR is that bad. Of course, I miss the crap out of that man. But I don't know, it's just not the end of the world. It was a big change going from living with him to this far-away-ness, but it been totally doable. We have been apart now for four months. We are halfway to the closing-the-distance finish line! I can't believe how fast it's gone by.
I am lucky because he's so dedicated and puts in loads of effort. So I get to "see" him on skype 5-6 times a week for 30 minutes each time. It is so wonderful to see his face and hear his voice. But for the first 2 months, we had no skype and I was paying a billion dollars a minute to call him. But even that wasn't so bad. He is low drama so as long as I keep it low drama on my end, we are usually good!
A little bit of struggle ain't so bad for such a wonderful reward
(ps don't quote me on all this when I get back from a visit in January and am bawling my eyes out! hehe)
I do think that some things make it easier, though- being able to visit frequently, having regular contact, a clear plan to end the distance all helped me a great deal when I had them. Looking forward to getting him back to the states in March and hopefully spending a great deal of time with me.
I had a really hard time the first 6 months we went LD, mostly because we had to adjust to a lot of things in our lives and try and find a new balance that works for us, because we both deal very differently with the distance, emotionally. But once that balance was found, things have been great
I'm secretly very proud of us, as i think most of you are, for all the good we've been making of these situations
these quotes helped me out :
«Voyez-vous dans la vie, il n'y a pas de solutions. Il y a des forces en marche : il faut les créer, et les solutions les suivent.»
«L'amour, on ne le discute pas, il est.»
«On ne voit bien qu'avec le coeur. L'essentiel est invisible pour les yeux. »
[ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry ]