I've decided that the worst part of having a child, is other parents. Let me tell you a little (aka really long) story and then you can tell me if I'm overreacting.

The librarian at my school, who is very granola, alternative, rejects everything French/civilization/etc, has a son who is Rokia's age. Her son and Rokia often find themselves at the same house because they have 1 friend in common. From what I've seen, her son is awful! He alway misbehaves, throws tantrums, cries at the drop of a hat, hits other kids, etc. He's been like that in my car when I took her and her son somewhere but I didn't say anything to her because I figured that it wasn't my business.

Well, I guess she thinks it's her business to say whatever she wants to me. The first weird thing was a few weeks ago when she told me that she was watching Rokia play the other day and couldn't believe how big her thighs were (uuhhhh what?). She was saying it as like a half-compliment ("She's so strong!") and a half-insult ("You better have her get into swimming or something or she'll look like a wrestler"). So....very strange. But I brushed it off.

Then 2 days ago at work, she came up to me and told me her son came home crying the other day, said that Rokia was mean to him and that he never wants to play with her again. I replied, "Okay, well what did he say that she did?". "oh she was stealing his toys, etc". I said, "Well, they are just kids and I know that Rokia has said things about your son hitting her or whatever but I haven't said anything because I figure they are kids and they all do it to each other".

Her reply was what really pissed me off: "But don't you think she lies? ...For attention?". I was so annoyed and just said "I don't know". She replied, "Oh, you don't know about your own daughter?" I just couldn't take it anymore. I gathered my things, told her that I was done talking about this and I left.

I've successfully avoided this lady until today when it was the end-of-year party and all of our families were invited. Rokia was playing with all of the boys (incl. librarian's son). He kept coming over and crying, "Rokia insulted me" "Rokia took my toy". What a baby! I was watching the kids and they were being all equally rough with each other.

He ran over crying again and I asked the librarian's friend (who doesn't like me either), "What's going on?". She replied, "Of course, it's Rokia". I said, "What are you trying to say". She said, "Oh you know Rokia, she's super aggressive." I said that I didn't think she was any more aggressive than those boys and then, once again, stood up and left. We ended up leaving the party because I was so annoyed and Rokia was getting tired.

My SO thinks that I am overreacting. He thinks that these 2 women say these things just to piss me off and that by leaving like that, I let them "win". I know that I am a very sensitive person, but it really hurts me to think that others think my daughter is aggressive or whatever, when I think she's just about the same as all the other kids. Plus, even if they did think that, I don't get why they say it directly to me like that, "Oh, you know Rokia, such a horrible child" (not a direct quote haha). Keep that shit to yourself!

Ughhhh sorry that was really long. But it does help to get it off my chest and on paper (screen?).