I have a bit of a dilemma that I am torn with. My SO is graduating from the Army in the end of August and ever since the beginning of our relationship, he expressed how much he wanted me there at graduation. Well, recently he informed me about that he was going to get a 10 day leave and was going back to his home state Indiana and wanted to know if I would be able to go with him.

The issue is that I am a teacher and during this time, school is in session (graduation couldn't have been just a few weeks earlier grr). I have gotten the okay from my principal that I may have 3 days off from school for this trip, plus the weekend, making it a 5 day trip. That's it. So, I am already having limited amount of time with him and if I go to his graduation AND Indiana, I am going to be loosing the better part of two days with all the extra traveling. Not to mention it would be an extra $400 dollars (which isn't THAT much of a big deal since I will be getting extra money for working summer).

So obviously, flying straight to Indiana seems like the better option (both time and money wise). He finally responded today and said he agreed going straight to Indiana would be easiest even though he would like to have me at graduation, it wouldn't be a big of a deal if I am not there. Plus, he said he would pick me up at the airport in Indiana, alone, and in uniform. That just sounds so much better for a first meeting than in a middle of a crowd, with his family and drill sergeants (and not to mention I would probably have a hard time finding him at first since there will be hundreds of them in uniform).

But I still feel guilty if I miss the graduation though since this is a big deal for him (he comes from a military family and obviously dreamed of doing the same but had a lot of issues that prevented to the point that he did not think it would ever happen). Even though I have his blessing to miss it, I know I would always feel bad. I just wish I had more days to make it all worth it though.