well, we have been talking now more and more about moving to be with eachother. January, will be our 1 year anniversary..and we've only seen eachother 3 time(3rd trip is in December). Each visit, i've gone out to Michelle..so Naturally, i've kinda gained a liking for being out in BC. It's absolutely beautiful out there.. mountains, ocean..everything a sailor would love! Only a few things though- cost of living out there is soo much higher to where i live right now, jobs are most likely harder to find..and i would be away from my family (mom is sick, have 3 nephews..etc). Michelle and I had agreed from the beginning that I WOULD be moving out there.. but now, Michelle has started to change her mind. She says she doesn't want me to have to leave my family yet, because they all depend on me(which they do :@) and I'm going to school here (at least for another year and a half) and we could both make better money and live for cheaper! Well, of course I would love this, and so would my family! Michelle says really, her family doesn't "NEED" her to be there right now...so she really wants to be out here. Were both getting SO tired of being away from eachother-- which im sure everyone can relate to. She says she wants to be out here in the next YEAR! but, i try to be realistic..and financially, i really don't see how this is possible. We agreed that the person moving would get an apartment by their self, and then the other person(whoever's province were in) would live at home, and visit and stay over and all of that stuff..and slowly ease into living together. we both think that if we just threw ourselves into a situation of living together, it could hurt us..and we wanna just do things NORMALLY- FOR ONCE! LoL.. so i'm feelin bad right now, cuz i know that financially i could never do that right yet...and i feel bad cuz she is so unhappy at home i don't really know what to do or how to reassure her- i just keep saying, " dont worry hun, we'll figure it out". If someone has ANY advice on how to deal with this please please send some my way...
Don't get me wrong, i miss her like freaking crazy! but, i wouldn't want one of us to make a move and not really have a stable situation, ya know? anyone have any advice about moving/getting a job..any of that, please let me know, i would really appreciate it!