Matt said he needed to talk to his mom about it. I told him that I'd also send an email, and he could pull her onto Skype when I got up if she wanted to talk further. Doing my best to help with "my boy is growing up" and easing her concerns, yanno?

I got up early (5:30 AM) and asked him how the talk with his mom went. He said she didn't get the email I sent. Ok, that sucks and I'll resend it, I said, and asked again how the talk went. It turned out he didn't talk to her because the email didn't send through, and he felt like he couldn't talk because she didn't receive it.
And I got pissed because, well, I was disappointed in him and his response of "We'll get it sorted tomorrow."

Her receiving my email or not shouldn't have precluded him from bringing it up to his mother. I feel it's important he talk to her and not use me to do it all (and there's a tiny bit of kneejerk because that's exactly how my ex always (not) handled things, so I tend to not be sympathetic). He needs to do his part, and no one wants to hear from just the girlfriend first. I gave him some firm words on how that wasn't cool and he shouldn't rely on me, because he'd already not gotten his passport done in June like he said he would.

I didn't handle it in the most mature manner. I did apologize for my part. I was tired, pissed, and I admit I wasn't being good about it. And his mom's really hard to get time with, so I knew she had that evening free
hence more disappointment and worry.

So I rewrote the opening email paragraph as if Matt hadn't talked with her and sent it on Facebook. Cringe-worthy, but at least then I don't get caught in whatever bizarre spam issue that took my email. She was quite appreciative of the email, and she said she wanted to think about it for 1-2 days. It sounds like my reassurances about everything worked, but she's circling back to the fact it's going to cost me so much. I realize she wants Matt to be a mature man who handles his own business, and I understand independence, but it's not like this is the last trip. He can pay for my next ticket.

In either case, I'm 99% certain she'll say she's fine with it, but until then, I'm in limbo antsy land.

I guess some people would wonder why his mom's approval means anything in this situation, given we're both adults, but let's face it - at 20, you're still in the process of leaving the nest. Since he still lives with his mom, he's under her roof and it's a respect issue. His family is close, and you don't just get in-your-face about what you're going to do. Plus there's no point in bluntness when a little patience will do the trick. His mom adores me, and I love them all. My family is like this, so I understand how it works.

The next two days needs to pass quickly. *sighs*