Ok, I need to rant here, in the privacy of people who will understand. Everything's been going so well with M and my life in general. I've righted my life, I've started diddling with writing again, and I'm dating a wonderful man who, while overseas, still manages to give me more respect, attention, and companionship than my ex-husband. Here we have our next meet-up planned, with him coming out for two months in October.

But guess what? That's not good enough for some of my friends, who've decided I'm rushing things. Even though they haven't asked me about my life since I've been separated and divorced, excluding maybe a meet-up or two, and people who have admitted they have no real information to work off of, they're still deciding things based on... what? I mean really, if you're making a decision about me 'rushing things' and you admit you have no information, then wtf mate?

Here's a shocker, why don't you try, you know, talking to me more often to know how well I'm doing, or asking?

Then again, knowing how people are, I'm sure reasonable, rational information gathering like that wouldn't matter. Since being a divorcee means I must automatically be throwing myself into the arms of the first available man, I'm clearly just setting myself up for failure.

What pisses me off the most about this is if I was dating someone here, if they were local, that would somehow make it ok. It's been subtly implied that because I have to plan in advance my dates and visits with my boyfriend, my relationship is less valid and a set-up for failure. It's also been stated by another that since I knew M while I was with my husband, our relationship is less-so because 'it will always be linked to him saving you from your marriage.'

Yeah, news flash there - no one saves you from a failed marriage, you survive it, you just work through the issues, and learn from it. I never had a white knight, and I would've kicked him in the codpiece had one appeared. I carry myself just fine.

You're not worried about me getting hurt, you want to pass judgment on me because it's not your idea on How Long a Divorcee Should Recover. Well, if I don't pass your personal rules, then tough nuggets.

What's funny is it was ok that we met up in May before my divorce finalized, but apparently him coming here is different, since now I'm getting tut-tut's from people. Gotta love the double standard.

It's really great to know I have such wonderful, supportive friends. /end sarcasm

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