I mentioned this on a forum link, but I just gotta get this conversation with my grandma off my chest. It's bugging me so much that it's still on my mind, even though the conversation was last night.

I called my grandma, and at the end of our conversation she asked how Matt's visit had been. I filled her in on a few things, and then her tone changed. She told me that she hoped I had a good trip, and that it's an 'awfully long distance for a relationship' - and implying that she hoped I enjoyed the moment, because it's all I had. That my relationship wasn't a 'real' relationship. She started to say more, but I told her firmly that we were planning on closing the distance, and that I was moving to Australia. I could tell from her tone and the following words that she didn't approve.

She started asking me where I would live (I told her Matt's family invited me to live with them, but I could easily get my own place), and I basically laid down that the strong economy combined with the acceptance and ease/lesser cost of a visa meant that I was moving there, and I also told her we were quite flexible on moving back to the US if it was more advantageous for us.

She made it clear that the Matriarch Did Not Approve with her voice when she said it was 'a long ways to move.' Insinuated I was making a bad decision. Part of this is I know grandma doesn't handle news well that she doesn't like/changes things/rocks her world. She's set in her ways. I'm very hurt that she didn't even give me a chance to say or explain anything without her judging me, particularly since she knows absolutely nothing about the situation or my life.

I'm hoping that once she has a chance to digest the thought of me moving, she'll be fine, because it's happened other times, but it certainly leveled my mood.

It's one thing to be concerned for someone. It's another to treat them like they're a 6 year old twit.

Then I get up this morning, and Matt's mom's boyfriend, groused at him about 'spending all of his time on the internet', when that's not the case. And there it was again - someone I thought who understood, who had been in an LDR with Matt's mom until they moved in together in May, was grousing about something that he of all people should be compassionate about. He probably wasn't thinking about that, and in general is a really nice guy, but it... it stung. Particularly since Matt found out his computer is borked and will cost around $800-$1k to fix. *sigh*

Grey skies, blinking at me, nothing but grey skies do I see...