I found myself thinking about something someone once said in the middle of my divorce. When asked (yet again) why we were getting divorced, and I explained a few of the reasons, whoever I was talking to felt like injecting their own opinion on the matter. When I told them that my husband decided he didn't want children, said person said "Well, you probably should have talked about that before marriage."

When I told the person that we had talked about it before marriage, they misunderstood, and that he had changed his mind after marriage, the only response they could give was "Oh."

Thinking back, whoever you are, you were a dick. All I remember is you're one of the people I no longer talk to, and I'm glad. You didn't even have the grace to apologize for your thoughtless comment.

Thinking Forward...

I had one of those moments last night where I thought about the visa we will apply for next year - the spouse visa. The thought of going through it and getting denied just hit me like a ton of bricks. So much pain and fear.

I don't usually let things like this bother me, but sometimes, concerns come out twisted. I'm back to mostly normal today, but all I can think is "I don't want to have that freak me out again." I can't control it, and it needs to go away again under the "cannot be helped and thus do not dwell on minor possibilities" mental safekeeping act.

My sweetheart isn't handling the distance well. I hope I can cheer him up this weekend.