On Monday night we had a staff dinner, I had a really good time. Everyone got dressed up and I will admit I quite liked the compliments. The other girls I work with always wear their nice fashionable clothes to work but because I only ever go from home to work I just wear my scrubby work jeans with my work shirt and hair tied back. I took the time to curl my hair, wore a dress and everyone was like "woah you can look like a girl!" Just kidding they didn't actually say that but I'm sure it's what they were thinking.
Anyway dinner was nice and then we headed to a bar.I don't think I had to pay for any of my drinks which was awesome! I danced so much! I haven't gone dancing in such a long time. I danced with everyone, one of the cooks, this big turkish guy started getting a little close so that was a little bit awkward. I just kept trying to make him spin so he'd either get dizzy or I'd have time to make my getaway. We ended up staying at the bar until it closed. I left my phone in coat check so I was half excepting a text from my SO asking why I wasn't home or whatever. I did have a text but he didn't give my any grief for staying out until 4am which I was happy about. I had this brilliant idea of putting a pair of kitten heels in my bag for the walk home but when I changed into them they were even more uncomfortable then my boots but didn't want the effort of putting my boots back on so I walked home looking like a complete drunk staggering fool cause my feet were so sore. Maybe that is why my legs and toe hurts so much!
I've been talking to my friends Sister about her bridal shower. I asked her what kind of gifts someone would give at a shower and she said kitchen home things. To me that just says "congrats on getting hitched, here are some things that will make you a good little house wife" I think kitchen stuff sounds boring. For any of you that have been to or had a shower what did you give/get? I kind of think shower gifts should be for the bride and save the boring stuff for wedding gifts?
I started seeing this counsellor last week. She has some helpful advice but I think after I see her tomorrow I might cut it off. I think I can get just as good help here as I can from her but for much cheaper. I also don't think I have that much to talk about to continue for very long.
My SO booked tickets to Canada to come to my friends wedding and then we plan on doing some camping for a couple weeks. I am excited but kind of unsure. Since our talk things haven't changed. We had sex once and then nothing, zip, nada. I'm at the point where if he still isn't over me cheating over a year ago, he might never be. I find myself struggling and being angry and when he goofs around I just don't want any of it. It's affecting me and I don't know what to do about it. Talking about it doesn't seem to help, I don't even think I know how to be sexual with him. The thing is I know I need to have another conversation with him, but I fear that it will end up being the last conversation I have with him and then what do we do about the trip we've planned to berlin/krakow and his plane ticket to Canada?
Guess I did have a bit to talk about
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Re: kitchen stuf, I really wouldn't mind, you know. I got mostly kitchen stuff as wedding gifts from my SO's family and I was grateful because it saves money. And honestly I could never be comfortable with anyone enough to buy them lingerie. So maybe some kind of jewelry/make-up, girft cards as others suggested?
As for the relationship stuff... when your SO starts goofing around, it means he's in a good mood, right? Wouldn't that be a good time to initiate sex? I mean he can't pull the "I'm too tired" card again. And I think all the trips you planned are terrific. I'm sure you'll have a great time.
You can always get her something appliance-wise that would double with hobbies/interests of hers, too. With the blender example above, say she was a health nut--get her that, and spin the reason as you getting it because you know how much she loves trying new recipes or something.
But I LOVE Moon's idea about a wine basket...maybe I won't be getting those kitchen appliances at my shower...hehehehe
Excuse me being a judgmental bitch this morning. Haven't had any tea yet.
With that said, maybe I'm old, but kitchen stuff is great as long as it's not shit no one ever uses. Like, I live in a tiny shoebox, so a food processor, and a blender and a waffle machine and a forman grill etc etc would piss me off but there are lots of great household items a person would like to have but would never buy for themselves because they don't need to have it.
I think it's cute how people are all shy about receiving knickers in front of family. My MIL promised to take me lingerie shopping for my wedding (never followed through) and I was up for making a day of it, and my sister and I share lingerie so that what we have doesn't get boring. They're just clothes
Are there photos of you looking swish? Because the masses really like photos
I'm happy to hear you had a blast too, you deserve it!