So, my boyfriend hid our relationship status on FB after he started his job at the prison due to him being paranoid about inmates finding information about him, and most importantly about me (he's extremely protective of me, and he doesn't even like when he hears people talking about me or looking at me). Only he and I can see it on his FB, but all of our friends know we're still dating, and it's still up on mine. The reason why he set it so that only he and I can see it on his, is just in case one of his friends' friends, or a friend, knows someone incarcerated in his jail (completely plausible) and could share details about him knowing that he's a C.O. there. Plus, he's had a couple prisoners ask him if he lives in such and such neighborhood because they think they've "seen him around" sometime, before they were incarcerated, he lied and denied it of course. He lives in a really bad neighborhood, so we don't doubt that some inmates have seen him around the area. It's scary having some of them go up to him like that, knowing where he lives. So, I'm totally fine with him changing that setting. They're completely logical reasons. He already has his FB set as pretty private, but he doesn't want them to find anything out about me, just in case. I have mine set really private too (it's been this way though).
But, since he did that about a month ago, I'm noticing more girls, that he's friends with, commenting/liking his statuses and pictures. -_- I don't think I'm being too crazy, because I've never really seen these girls comment on his stuff before, but now all of a sudden they are. Especially his one best friend that I posted about in a thread I made and in one of my blogs on here. -_- It's like every time he posts a status about wanting to go out and asking who's free/up for beers, she's the first person to like it. She never really did that before he hid our status. This is the same one that started talking to him a lot/trying to get him to hang out with her all the time when he wasn't sure about us last year. Now, I hate being that girl, especially since I've given so many others advice to just brush it off, but at the same time, it's really annoying. I'm also thinking that it's increased because I haven't been posting/tagging him on FB as much lately, because I've been texting him/writing him emails more. Plus, I stopped posting so much for the same reasons he hid our status, just in case.
Now, I trust my boyfriend completely and I know he just thinks of them as friends since he never hangs out with any of these girls, but they're still annoying. They almost make me feel like they're vultures in a sense. Jumping on the wagon in the hopes that maybe he's single.
I just really hate people that do those types of things, I feel like it's disrespectful. Obviously, I'm still very much in the picture and I'm not going anywhere.Keep trying, ladies. You're not going to get him.
Yet another annoying thing of being friends with your SO on FB. Too bad it's one of our preferred ways of communication since we're both on it all the time (we chat a lot on FB Messenger).
Perhaps, this is all just a coincidence? I don't know, but it's the same girls commenting/liking his posts all the time.
Feeling that you are not as present in your SO's life, especially if there is a change in the FB status like in your case, is also normal and understandable. The thing is, do you want to be the insecure and possessive girlfriend, or the confident and loving one? I think it is possible to express your concerns in a way that brings you closer to the latter option.
I would tell him that I think his friends got the wrong idea from his status change and you would really appreciate it if he told them in no uncertain terms that the situation has not changed. Maybe also if you met them the next time you are visiting? Try not to sound like you are marking your territory, but more that you want to be a part of his life, including his circle of friends that obviously wants to hang out with him, judging by how they respond to his statuses. Good luck!