I was never one of those little girls that dreamed of her wedding day. I just didn't care. I got to a stage where I loved Obi so deeply that being married and binding our souls together for eternity seemed like a natural progression. One lifetime is not enough for me to show this man how much I love him.
We're doing the wedding thing. Not a big one, but a wedding none the less. Something spiritually and legally fulfilling. But I'm sick of it. I'm sick of the people who are supposed to support me not being able or willing to do so. I'm sick of the complaints and how much everything fucking costs!
Most of all I'm sick of not getting any damn help!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
My bridal party, for example, has been nothing but trouble. People not knowing if they can afford to come I can handle and respect. People fucking me around this close to the wedding I can't respect. Perfect example: I asked one friend to be a BM if she could 100% rsvp yes to the wedding. Ok so she said she wasn't sure because of finances and asked when I needed to know by. I told her I need to know now, and so she replied automattically with a "yes, I'll make it work". So, I added her to the bride'smaids group I have on fb (for organisational pourposes), and told her she doesn't need to worry about a dress because I'll buy the one from the BM I fired and have it sent directly to her. She doesn't bat an eye at this. She makes a few posts in the group. Today she messages me and says "Wait? I'm a bridesmaid? I don't want to be a bridesmaid. Choose someone better suited"
Seriously? WHAT. THE. FUCK. You couldn't tell me this before I bought you a formal gown could you?!
I'm tired. I can't stop crying. No one wants to help me. And people keep telling me I'm stupid. That I can't possibly make my own cake. That I was a fool for wanting a wedding under ten grand and wouldn't achieve that (ok, they were right about that.). That weddings are boring and they don't want to help - but they don't want to feel left out. That I'm not ready to marry. I just want it to be over.
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My mom and her *fiance* are coming to visit next week and decided yesterday to get married while down here with a lawyer. Afterwards, we're going to a bar to drink beer. Sounds like the best, most relaxing wedding ever to me. After seeing what poor brides have to go through... a lawyer and a stamp sound good to me!
Screw all the nay-sayers. Honestly, other than the parents and EXTREMELY close family (probably a handful of people for most), the rest of the guests just show up for the spectacle/food. You don't have to worry about pleasing them. "That weddings are boring and they don't want to help - but they don't want to feel left out." <- That is so irksome. You do whatever you want to do.