End rant.
Thinking of him, he got some shit news this week. He was on his last day of contract for the two week TV gig, and the month-long contract people phoned him and said "The budget for our project soured, we're releasing you from your hold contract." Joy. So he's back to being unemployed for a while. The people he just finished a contract with are keen to have him on again, once they secure another project, which is nice, but at the same time I hope if he does work there again it's with better hours.
Because I don't knock off until he does. So if he's stuck at work for 10, 11, 12 hours and then commutes home, I'm stuck with Isis for the same amount of time. And I don't mean to complain. I love our time together, but especially in the evenings it gets rough and I just want a break or a chance to just do one thing at a time. The other day he was all "I might have to find a different line of work if I can't get contracts with reasonable work days" (VFX is notorious for it's long hours) and I felt sad for him. On one hand, I didn't get married so I could be alone all the time with double the laundry. On the other hand I want him to enjoy his work and not have to worry about his little wifey getting angry because yet another dinner goes uneaten. So I've stepped up my efforts to be more supportive of the longer hours and whatever, but I agree it would be good for him to be trained in something else so that in slow seasons like this one he has something else he can fall back on. I suggested doing photography on the side, because he's reasonably good at that and the editing skills of his career cross over. He's keen, but I don't think it'll go anywhere any time soon.
He's off at a poker tournament right now. I don't understand why he likes that stuff, but it's a free roll, so whatever. I can't be all like "No gambling! Ark rawk!" when it's not costing anything, can I? I want him to be happy and have hobbies and make friends and shit. I'd also love it if he could get back into horse riding. He was a horse person when I met him, but that shit's really expensive. And when he's working, would he have the time? Anyway, I'm writing this so I can research it later.
My sister is apparently fine. The pain and lump mystically disappeared
I still want her to follow it up, but you know what? Cancer doesn't randomly shrink on it's own, and if it's not that and she's not in pain? Meh. Just wish my Aunt was so lucky, no news on that front. If Obi's still unemployed next week, we're thinking of making a day trip down to see her (about three hours away) because she's busy this weekend, Obi's birthday is next weekend, and I don't want to leave it much longer.
His birthday... I picked up tickets to some comedy thing because he's into that, but it's not until November. I'd like to give him a little something else as well. I bought these camera lenses that go on your phone, because they were awesome and inexpensive, but I don't think they'll be here in time. (But hey, it's time to start working on Christmas anyway)
It's father's day this weekend in Oz. Isis and I are making him a little potted veggie garden, because he's into that stuff. Even though I know it will be me looking after it. And even though we live in units, so this garden is going to be on the commons. I hope nobody decides to be an arsehole about it. We'll keep it tidy, no one uses the area except for laundry anyway.... here's hoping.
I've never done father's day before. Mothers? Mothers are easy. You can't think of something, jewelry or candles will do it. But what the hell do people do for fathers? Beats me seeming I never had one. We always just gave mum a card thanking her for being awesome and for a bit of a laugh (and later to goad her boyfriend, hah). But I agonized over father's day. Til I came up with this idea, and the only reason it happened is because this lone onion in the fruit bowl sprouted and Obi's nagged to be able to plant it. No, you're not planting something that will take another season to get the seeds from it so we can plant those and grow something to eat that is possibly the cheapest vegetable to buy. So now he can grow things that we can't afford like snow peas ($14 a Kg? I think not!) and asparagus ($3 a bunch? Hell no). Woo
That's enough ramble for one day. Though you know I could just keep going and going....
Re: Father's Day, I don't know any more than you. I remember as a kid I decorated a shirt with my mother's help, two paint handprints and the words "I love you this much" or something equally cheesy. That's the last one I think I "celebrated" or even acknowledged lol.
LB - Not last birthday, the one before, I actually requested a sponsorship as my present, and it was great. I'm not a fan of world vision though.
For me it's not "I have to give a present now" it's "I'm allowed to give presents now". See I would buy people gifts every freaking day and be ridiculously poor if I didn't make an effort to restrain myself to a few times a year. Realistically, there's nothing I can buy him that he couldn't buy himself, because it's the same money... but there are things that we can't justify buying for ourselves that are perfectly acceptable as gifts
I don't know, I like giving. It's an opportunity to express my creativity. I personally think it's slack and offensive when people let significant days just drift by... like in Obi's family. They might get gifts, but it's usually several months later as an afterthought, and it's in the plastic bag they got it in. No... just no. Part of showing love is putting in the effort to know what they like and have it on time, imo.
I guess my point was buying gifts just for the sake of buying gifts is frivolous in my opinion. If someone looks at something and says "oh Zephii would love this!" I'm all about it. But if you're like "crap, it's so-and-so's birthday and I have to buy them at least 3 things because they bought me three things so let me think of random crap they'll probably like" that bothers me.
Again, I'm all for presents!