I hear so many happy stories here about couples who are closing the distance, even from other countries. And then I try to figure out what it would take to do it, and the obstacles at my age with my finances look insurmountable, and the future looks bleak, even assuming that he would be able to free himself in a few years.
If I moved there, he would have to sponsor me, and, really it wouldn't be fair to expect him to handle all the expenses, even if he could. As far as a visa goes, I don't have the savings, the resources, or even the education and work background I would need to even qualify. If he moved here, I would have to sponsor him, and there's no way I could afford it, being on a fixed income on Social Security.
He keeps telling me to just stay in the NOW and enjoy what we have together on our online relationship, and not worry about the future. Well, unless he has a few miracles up his sleeve, we might have to settle for a life-long LDR, never meet, never close the distance. That's a life-sentence of loneliness. Very depressing.
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I am taking care of myself. I have way too much time on my hands, and an over-active ADD Gemini mind, which can get me into trouble when I start over-thinking. I can really talk myself into a bad case of the blues, over things I have no control over. But, I'm planning to get busier with my own life, and have more fun on my own.
You are right it helps to have others in a similar situation.
Our LDR is open ended, the date, year and place for closing the distance is a big question mark in the air.
We are in the waiting game. Approx ten years maybe.
When our kids have grown up. But in our case it isn't for sure (as nothing in life is), because what if something happens, one of us dies or has a change of heart.
And could I really move countries and leave my kids behind (unless they decide to join me ). We shall see, but atleast at that point when they are grown up, we can spend a lot more time together
We shall see. My motto, I guess, should be it's not about the goal, but the journey it self.
Take care of yourself!