Anyway, I was lucky enough to spend five months in the UK at BF's, and it was lovely. Obviously, he managed to annoy me a couple of times, but everything just went so nicely and I think we make a great team. We have the same sort of ideas on the biggest things that affect the normal everyday life, like tidiness and money, which is a huge help in my opinion.
Those months were also very stressful. What's funny that it had nothing to do with him or our relationship, but two outside people. His brother and sister-in-law still live there. And we don't have the same ideas on the biggest things. They don't clean and leave their crap everywhere. There are shoes and clothes in the living room, they leave their washing-up lying around everywhere and just, in general, don't do anything to make the situation more pleasant for everyone. I might be slightly more understanding if we got along otherwise, but we're just very different personalities.
She can be extremely nice but the next minute she's just so condescending it's unreal. We were friends for three days out of five months. She decided to share her doubts about our relationship and my job. Both of which she literally does not know anything about.
It just caught me off guard and I just couldn't say anything. Then we went away for a week and they could have easily thrown their dinner parties for their friends every day of the week. They did it on the evening we got back home and expected us to go have dinner somewhere else and stay out of their way. Obviously without letting us know more than five minutes before the guests were to arrive. That is just one of those things that I can't really understand. Probably I'm to blame as well in certain things, but I just can't bring myself to have anything going with her because we just don't seem to click at all. We gave them our schedule around February-March time, saying that I will move in after we come back from Finland after Christmas and it would be great if they'd be out by then. They were OK with that. Of course, they didn't start the house buying process until June. They found one relatively easy and put in an offer because "it's so cheap!" They were going to move by the end of October. Well, last month it was clear that the house is a complete shit hole and they would have to spend tens of thousands to make it liveable, so they withdrew the offer. Now they can't move. BF has bought his brother's share of the house and he now owns it on his own. Technically they're not supposed to live there anymore after the bro got the money, but that's not how they roll. They are not looking for a rental flat until they can find a place to buy, no.
Anyway, I got home three weeks ago and the whole being apart stress and the house stress just got me bad. I wasn't getting much sleep, I was crying constantly and I was a complete mess. I wasn't myself at all. One day I exploded, and just went nuts over the whole thing. I got everything out and it just felt like a weight had been lifted. I told him that I'm not OK with the fact that someone else's mess is dictating when we can start living normally. I told him that I'm not doing that shitty communal living anymore, and if they think they can live there for months on end even though they've been bought out, I'm not going to be there. It's not fair.
We had a good old chat about it, and he promised that he would ask them to leave if their housing problems continue. Now he's worried that they will lose their shit if it comes to that. Which, I'm sure, they would, but surely they would have to understand our point of view as well? If it was the other way around I would like to think that I would understand if they didn't want us there after months and months. Especially when we told them our schedule over six months ago and like I said, got their money from BF. I feel like we have been fairly understanding and patient, BF more than me, but anyway.
Am I being an unreasonable bitch?
Rant over!
If anything I think you were too understanding of them, tbh
Glad you two got along so well, tho :3