It's not you. It's not that you've done anything wrong. You've been patient whilst remaining practical. You're holding up your end of the stick. Don't blame yourself, ok?
We're all here for you, no matter which way this goes.

This makes me really sad to read. The other have given some really good advice. The problem is not you; it is your boyfriend who is having a hard time dealing with the distance. You have done nothing wrong. I can really relate to the things that you are going through. Even though, I broke up with Jared on New Years Eve (for many reasons, but some for him saying similar to the things that your Johnny is saying), but I still hope that I can give you some advice, and maybe you can gain some insight from my situation.

When we first started dating, Jared talked about us getting married and him moving closer to me to close the distance, but after a while, all of that conversation came to a halt. He said that it was too soon for him to be thinking about marriage and that he wasn't ready to close the distance. That was very hard for me to deal with...I felt as though my heart was breaking. I almost broke up with him that night because it sounded like he couldn't handle the distance, but we decided to try and work things out. However, the issues were never really resolved. I felt sad because I knew that I couldn't bring up talk about closing the distance without him feeling pressured and questioning us, so I tried to be patient. I tried to give him the space that he needed.

Flash forward to New Years Eve night, and I got so frustrated with Jared not putting in enough effort into our relationship that I snapped and asked him if he thought that we should break up. I gave him the choice of whether he wanted to work things out, and his silence spoke volumes. Finally, he said that he wasn't sure if he was in love with me and that he was frustrated with the distance. That isn't as similar to your situation as it is what he said the next day. He said that he hates the distance and that he felt pressured to close it by moving closer to me, which he didn't want to do. I asked if he would ever want to, and he said he wasn't sure because he said it is scary and risky moving to close the distance because it might not work out. That set me off. I told him that yes it is a risk, but so is being in any relationship, and most good things require a risk in the first place. At the same time, I told him that I had considered moving to be with him when I graduated, but that I sure wouldn't do it with the way he was acting because I wouldn't do it unless he would do the same for me (which it didn't sound like he was willing to do). It made sense for him to move closer to me. I have a year and a half until I graduate from college. He has already graduated and has a degree, yet he is working in a bookstore making only a dollar or two above minimum wage. He could easily get that same kind of job in my area. If he had a professional career, I would have been more understanding. At the same time, I know that he didn't want to leave his friends and family...but someone has to do that in a LDR, and the whole point is that you have to make friends at your new home and start a new family there.

There were a lot of reasons that lead to our breakup, but the main one was that he couldn't make up his mind about where our relationship was heading and that he couldn't give me a straight answer without changing his mind every second. It got to where I felt like I was sacrificing part of myself by compromising what I needed in our relationship. I needed security and evidence from him that he wanted to spend his life with me...but he couldn't give me that. It hurt me so much that I did what I did, and I know it was the right decision. Jared and I are still talking, and we might work things out but we might not. But I decided that I deserved better than to have to wait for him to make up his mind on whether he loved me enough and whether he could handle the distance. I deserve better. Jared was my first love, and I am still heart-broken, but mo matter what happens, I know I will be alright in the long run.

You can only do so much, and it sounds as if you are trying the hardest that you can. If Johnny steps up and acts like a man, then great, but you still need to keep in mind that you deserve the stability that Silviar spoke about. If things don't work out, then things will be hard, but you will make it through--I promise you that. The people here will still be here to support you if you need it.

I hope you get things figured out. Best of wishes and know that everything happens for a reason even if you can't see it at the time. I am here if you need someone to talk to.

You all are so great for your love and supported comments and giving me advice I really appreciate it.
Karr-I have tried the space thing with him and he doesnt take that well.
true-thank you!
S-your right this isn't the first time hes put me on a rollar coaster. do u think we will last as a couple if he keeps flip flopping?
Zephii-im trying not to blame myself but its so hard. i feel so selfish sometimes.
bluestars-im just scared for me and jonny's future together.