When we first started talking we were giddy. We all go through it, madly in love in that little honeymoon phase. Before the first visit things where amazing. Then we met and the entire trip was fantastic, it was such an adventure. I turned 21 the day I arrived in the US and I got to spend 4 weeks with my man, I came home a week before Christmas and it was heartbreaking leaving him at the airport. He cried and had to walk away when I got into the security line, I turned around to find him and I think if he had still been there I would have gone back. I cried on the plane home
I miss him so so much now, things are harder than they have ever been but we are pushing on through. We don't physically hear each other much anymore, went from everyday to maybe once a week but we keep up with the messaging. It makes it bearable.
I don't know what I'm going to do when I come back home the next time, I don't know if I can go 6 months or longer between a visit. It's only been 4 months so far and it's harder than I could have imagined. He's tried to give me an out, several times, but I just wouldn't take it. He means so much to me and even though this distance is really hard now, I'm doing my best to focus on that end result.
I haven't done any research into what it takes to move to the US, he asked me to wait until after this years visit, so here I am, waiting.
I feel a bit better for having written this, I don't even care if it gets read. Mikey isn't feeling very well today and I'm feeling super lonely. I hope others are having better times.
If you want to move to the US, your options are:
1. Get into a college and get a student visa.
2. Get a job here and get a workers visa.
3. Marriage + sponsorship.
And for most countries the process of getting a visa takes 6 months to a year before you get the okay to come over. Workers visas are hard to come by as most places will hire locals before they will hire someone overseas. For marriage sponsored visas you will have to have been married for an okay amount of time. I've heard for the US you have to do an interview where they will ask you a lot of personal questions about your spouse to prove that you have a legit relationship. I've heard this part is very difficult as you will need to be able to travel at any moments notice. You may have to travel to the US simply to do the interview and it may not be where he lives, it could be states away. And your spouse has to have a high enough income (plus savings) that can support the two of you. OR, their parents can sponsor you if their income is high enough to support the three of you. These are pretty standard procedures for most countries.
But I dunno this comment was originally to say I feel your pain, we fully intend to visit each other more than once a year, but it's seeming like an "Every Summer when good stuff is happening over here" thing, cause June-August is chock full of fun stuff around here.
I'm hoping the visit is everything amazing and more, me and Tam are planning one but it's only two weeks long because she has a job now, and it sucks because it's been about a year...