The idea of letting my SO go is not only heart-breaking, but incredibly stupid. Is it somehow offensive to you that the first man I got serious with is a major catch? Are you suggesting I break up with a wonderful guy to go on a series of mediocre dates? None of these girls have had a relationship longer than a couple weeks. Not a strike against them (always thought that's how things would go for me), but you honestly don't know yet. They're mature girls in a lot of ways, but relationship-wise, they're very young. The things that matter to them are not things that mean much for the long haul (how he dresses is of primary concern to a few..).
As for sexual fulfillment, I know people tend to be promiscuous in college. I thought I'd also be a part of that, but really, I don't want a bunch of one-night stands. It's not the "number" issue (silly thing to define yourself by) but about satisfaction. I'm guaranteed the opportunity to live out my deepest darkest fantasies. Things that I would be beyond mortified to tell a casual boyfriend.
Some might argue that you need to know heart-break to know love. I agree with them. I don't agree that it has to be the heart-break you feel when a relationship dies. I'd argue that the kind of pain I've felt is much worse and I'm goddamn sure this is quite the opposite feeling. I've found love my way, so please don't suggest I give it up and force myself to find it your way.
Had to get that off my chest!
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2,5 years. We're LD only for the last 2 months so I actually didn't get to hear the stupid comments because I'm LD. But He is my first (not counting 1 boy I went out with a couple of times when I was 14 and he called himself my boyfriend) boyfriend. The first one where my family and friends can actually see how much I love and adore him. And after about a year, when everyone could see that we were really serious I started getting this "well meant" comments: "Oh, don't get to attached. He's only your first." or "You're so young, why do you already plan on settling down." Oh and the one I hate most, comes from older family friends: "Oh, I remember when I was young and naive. Enjoy it while it lasts."
Whenever I hear them, I'd gladly throttle them!
I believe that one has to be extremely lucky to find what some people here on LFAD have found and I pity all those who can not understand what it means to really love and cherish someone (even if it is the first time)