I just wrote a blog details J and my plans for the next year, him get an internship and study abroad in the US next fall then finish his degree in Guatemala. We had entertained the idea of him transferring or just starting from scratch in the US. He doesn't want to start over again which is completely understandable and he doesn't know enough English still so transferring seemed far-fetched. But, he just revealed that his overall grade average is lower than I originally thought - too low for acceptance to a US master program. So we talked a bit this morning.
I asked what it means, him telling me his overall grade and then saying he just wants to close the distance. He said he likes the idea of applying for the fiance visa this November/December. I said if we did that he could take English classes and apply for university in the US, and look for scholarships for him (he is smart, he slacks on studying and isn't a "no study but ace test-taker"). But I told him it would be really difficult. He still likes the idea of doing this but I don't know if it'd work out exactly as discussed. Especially since he'd need to pass the English proficiency exam and possibly take the SAT. Ugh.
My new university has awesome engineering programs so I'm thinking of e-mailing admissions and asking about what he'd need to do since he wouldn't exactly be an international applicant but wouldn't be a US applicant either. I wonder if it's possible to transfer after taking hiatus from his home university for a year? I think overall it would make the most sense for his career to apply as a new student. It would take longer but it'll allow him to start with a new record.
He is resistant to the idea of completely starting over again. I understand that but at the same time, I don't know if anything else is a realistic option. Bleh. It's still all jumbled in my head right now. I just needed to get it down. I know one part of me is really pulling for him to come here because I just don't want to be apart any longer but I don't know if that's far to him and his future. He doesn't want to be apart any longer either. Part of me thinks he should just focus on English and work two jobs to save money, taking leave from other classes if we want to apply for the visa this year. He'd start all over again but it'd be a stronger base to start from. We have to discuss more. I'm glad we at least opened the door to discussion during my short visit but I don't know what the heck we're doing now!
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conejita_hada started a blog post Update: Possibly closing the distance in 2015?Update: Possibly closing the distance in 2015?
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#1lucybelle commentedEditing a commentHe should finish his degree before moving to the USA. I think it's quite a bad idea to have him try to finish in the USA. He'd probably have to start almost all the way over, and if he doesn't like studying how do you think he'll fare in senior engineering classes in English? Distance sucks, but I think trying to complete his degree in a country where he doesn't speak the language is a really bad idea.
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#2ThePiedPiper commentedEditing a comment^ Especially given tuition costs and the fact that you'd have to look at how much of his previous education would transfer. But I've always been a firm believer in education before closing the distance. -
#3conejita_hada commentedEditing a commentHe wants to finish his degree so I guess that's what will happen. I don't want to demand anything because that will just serve my selfishness now and probably cause issues down the line. He's always told me that he'll finish in 2016 and that his grade point was ~75 (the US grad schools want an 80 for his degree) which I was prepared for, then he said his grade point is lower and will take at least additional semester, possibly year, to graduate. We had an argument and talked it over. I think my feelings after just moving and starting a new program is causing me to put pressure to close the distance sooner (and only think of me) so I'm stepping back from it. He also needs to achieve his goals and do the best possible thing for his future. 2015 probably wouldn't be beneficial to either of us in the long-run so we'll just go back to our original plan.
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