They've been dating for about 3 months, and they are planning on getting engaged next month.
He is looking at engagement rings right now online and discussing them with my supervisor.
I'm so frustrated...
My SO and I were hoping to get married this October, but we just can't get a break!
He is having terrible trouble getting a job. He had one that seemed like the answer to our prayers, and his boss ended up being a complete jerk. My SO was working 13 hour days/6 days a week. And his paychecks bounced. His employer was not trustworthy. Etc. Etc.
It's so disheartening because he wants a job sooooooo bad! And past education choices - namely only finishing about a year of college - are keeping him from getting a good job. He is such a hard worker, and he is so discouraged. All his job experiences lately have been insane! I think he could write a book about everything that has gone wrong.
I know that money isn't everything, but due to our beliefs we will not live together or be intimate before marriage. So for me getting married sooner rather than later is a big deal!
And he won't marry me unless we have some money first and he feels he can provide for me.
I guess it's bothering me seeing my friend with this guy for 3 months and he's buying a ring, when my SO can't afford one.
And I KNOW that is terrible of me. I KNOW that everyone is different and has different circumstances. I'm just feeling petty and jealous.
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I'm also worried that I'm becoming a nagging gf/future wife.
My dad has his own landscaping business. My SO actually worked for my dad when my SO was a teenager! Well my dad has been needing extra help and with my SO needing work, I thought it was a perfect fit! My SO is a very hard worker so my dad really enjoys working with him, and they've been working for the past few weeks.
Then today my SO tells me my dad wants him to work tomorrow, but he can't because he has to do some marketing paperwork for a seal-coating business he is planning on starting.
And the first thing I want to do is ask him why would you turn down a chance to make real money??? But I didn't. (I may have seemed displeased though...
)I really don't want to be that kind of gf/wife.
I know my SO is going to be something great! And I want to help him achieve the most that he can. Help him be the best he can be!
Sometimes risk is involved, and I don't want him to miss out on a chance because I'd rather him have a "safe" job with my dad.
I want to be the gf/wife who always believes in her man, always stood behind him, and always encouraged him to be the best he can, rather than the gf/wife who nags, bosses, and commands him to become what SHE thinks is the best he can be.
I've noticed my thoughts turning more nagging lately, and I don't want to pass that on to my SO. I think he can become anything he wants to be, and I want to give him the opportunity to prove it! I just need to keep my unhelpful opinions to myself and just encourage him! I don't want to doubt him, or pass on doubtful thoughts to him or others. My SO is amazing and I don't want to be the reason anyone thinks anything else of him.
Thanks for listening
I just want something super small, family, and simple.
I'm OCD so I think the bigger and more elaborate it gets, the more I will have to stress about.
I know there is no such thing as an "easy" wedding, but I'm sure there is definitely a lazy wedding, which I plan on having and enjoying
Try not to stress over this so much, because in the long run, a little extra time apart isn't going to matter. The job will come, and with it, the money you'll need, I know it's hard to be patient, but you'll get there. Trust me, your marriage and life will be much happier if you start it out with the right resources and a bit of security, struggle is only romantic in the movies!
You crack me up.
I know all of this in my head, but I start worrying and forget.